Would you?

[Giggles]

Would you get into a relationship where the guy at age 35 is still living with his parents and has no job but is going to college?

Actually my question is... Isnt it best to date someone who already has their life somewhat stable?

I have met this wonderful guy. Actually knew him when I was in 3rd grade. We went to school together in the same town. After years of our adult lives taking us in different directions, we have met once again. We began dating alot and I have learned that this guy is starting over in life. Living with his parents, going to college for the next 6 years and does not work. Our new relationship is already struggling becuase of some of these issues. He rarely has money to take me out. I feel very uncomfortable calling his parents house to reach him. And he although he is going to college, he has no goal to what he wants to be "when he grows up".

I am beginning to feel that maybe this is just bad timing and maybe I should end this relationship until he gets his life more stable. Yesterday I explained to him that I do not feel comfortable going over to his parents house, because its not his house. I dont feel comfortable calling because his family lacks warmth when I do call. And he's always borrowing money from his family to take me out or go do something. If he wants to come over to my house late to watch a movie or something he tells me "I snuck out".
WTF? This guy is 35! And Im beginning to feel like Im dating a teenager. He tells me that "its not his fault that he's living with his parents" (I dont know what that means). No accountability?
Im getting bad signals.... what do you think?

Its probably best I look for a guy to date that is more stable in life.. Yes?
Kinda sucks, because I really like this guy.. He makes me laugh and we've been friends for years.... If I break it off, I just hope we can continue our friendship.
Any Advice?

Giggles

[dancingdoc2]

Did you read what you wrote?

Keep him as a friend if you want, although dating doesn't seem the best thing to do. If you want to wait for him to become educated and established, you are looking at 6+5 years = 11 or a decade plus one, more or less. Got that time to just wait around? Unless there is some compelling reason to bag this guy, I'd say you are much better off finding someone who already has his life togeter, a bank account, and time to devote to you--NOW.

[Giggles]

Thanks Doc,
I did re-read what I wrote a couple days later after I wrote it. Realized alot.
And a few more events have happened since, that has done nothing but confirm that this guy still needs to grow up.
*sigh*
Thanks for the advice.
Smiles,
Giggles