Trying to improve sexual relationship

[remo]

My girlfriend and I have been together for one year. We currently have sex probably 3-4 times a week.

Are main issue is that when my girlfriend gives me oral sex and I orgasm---the orgasm is very intense and awesome!!! (I know not much of a problem there ). However, when we have penis/vaginal sex----her orgasm is very intense and mine is minor.

We are trying to figure away to reach the same level of intensity in our orgasms---any suggestions out there?

[dancingdoc2]

I frequently address this topic in which intercourse does not produce the intense orgasms that other forms of stimulation are capable of providing. What intercourse is good at doing is melding the psyches.

Think about the fact that the vagina is the gateway to a woman's soul and the penis is the essence of man. When the two come together, man and woman become one with the other for a moment in time and this is what it is primarily all about in my never to be so humble opinion.

[WallyLlama]

I'd recommend that you put away the ruler, thermometer, or whatever else you are using to measure orgasmic intensity.

While it's good to be attentive to what you are each experiencing, there is a danger that the attention becomes obsessive. Having orgasms is not a competitive sport and you'll lose the beauty and wonder if you consistently think about who came the most intensely.

For one thing, there is no ruler and no way of measuring, really.

There are times when you both will focus on her... times when the focus may be on you... and there will be times when you feel very together. But don't forget that you are making love, not trying to have intense orgasms.