Living without 1st love - Need some tips

[Tsphone]

Hi everybody,

I need some advise on how to get over your first true love
or atleast some tips on how to live without her

I met her at a party a few months ago i got her phone number
off her and we just started talking and we quickly realised we had
a really strong connection we became really good friends we
talked to each other everyday about everything,

We talked about beying more then friends and we both really wanted to
but because of other reasons we couldnt,

She recently said she couldnt take beying around me because she wanted
to be with me so much but we couldnt so she said she didnt want to talk
to me anymore or see me i was going to try and say that we could still be friends but i realised that she wasnt going to be happy if were so i just accepted it,

And its really hard not beying around her its like nothing in my life
means anything more it sucks im always thinking about her i miss
her so bad i really need some advise on how to get over
her,

Thanks for any advise.

[dancingdoc2]

Well, sir, this is a difficult process and one that often just becomes less over a very long time. There is no quick fix short of a bump on the head and that will probably cause you to forget more than her.

First, try not to circulate in the same places or with the same people she sees.
Second, when you catch yourself thinking about her, make a conscious effort to change thoughts and fill your brain with thoughts of anything else.
Third, if someone brings up her name, politely them them not to disucss her and to change the subject.
Fourth, remove any objects you may have from her or that you have that remind you of her.

There is a fifth suggestion that used to be suggested to boys preoccupied with thoughts of masturbation and that was to "keep busy" or to keep your mind occupied with other things. Well, the first part doesn't work and the second part is very similar to #2, above.

Lastly, if you include her in a fantasy while masturbating--CHANGE YOUR FANTASY!

Know that in time thoughts of her will fade and become less and less. Start dating other people and you will find that you will be kept busy and your mind will think of other things.

[NothingLikeAVigin]

what if everywhere you go and everything reminds you of them?

[dancingdoc2]

The next time the USS Enterprise goes back in time maybe you will be fortunate enough to meet Mr. Spock and have him do a Vulcan mind meld in which he gives the command: "Forget".

I know, t'aintagonnahappen. Ya just endure and also keep trying #2.
You are not experiencing anything new or unique to just you; nearly every guy has been in this situation at one time. I have often said that the death of a spouse is often better than being divorced because the divorced person is walking the planet and your paths might cross whereas with the demise of the other person its more like out of sight out of mind.

You'll get through this, really. Try not to dwell on her and when thoughts of her or specific situations pop into your brain, change your thoughts. If these situations are frequent as you say, you may be "changing your mind" a lot. The process is mainly one of deciding not to think about her and then doing so, not wishing it would happen or complaining that nothing works. Maybe nothing will, but in truth, time will.

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Cheers.
My first love almost ended in my death. Not pleasant. Do what Doc says, please. You'll learn to adapt eventually.