first relationship

[mrsbeef]

so my current boyfriend of 9 months has been my first relationship, kiss, oral, anal, and sex

is that wierd, or is that pretty common?

[truck21]

No not weird saids like you have someone nice! Well some would say it would be if you were with someone for 9 Months and you did not have sex yet. Get me

[Newtolove]

depends on how long she waited but if hhe was the right person he was the right person !

[Jaysey]

I don't think it's weird at all. Once you get started, it's natural to want to begin exploring all the different types of sex.

[ua322]

Originally Posted by mrsbeef

so my current boyfriend of 9 months has been my first relationship, kiss, oral, anal, and sex

is that wierd, or is that pretty common?

It sounds like you've explored every orifice thus far. I'd say you're making good time.

[Browser]

No, that isn't really strange. It seems like you two were ready, and willing to experiment. Experimentation is always good. Just be careful, and remember to use protection.

[WallyLlama]

Ummmmm...

I'm interested in why you asked the question. It might be weird... because you have some obvious concerns...

I'm old so I don't know what's common these days. Using my "old" outlook I'd say that what you are experiencing is perhaps not the usual... first relationship, nine months to get from first kiss to every orifice is not the "norm?"

I'd wonder if the other aspects of your relationship are developing as rapidly.

And, again, why you asked.

[mrsbeef]

i know it's different, but i was just wondering how different, i'm only 16 so yeaa

he's also my first love and we've already talked about marriage alot so i guess that might be rapid

what makes a relationship move so quickly? maybe that's more what i was asking

[WallyLlama]

Difficult question to answer, but it's important not to confuse sex with a relationship. Obviously it is (or at least can be) an aspect of a relationship. It often reflects the condition of the relationship... you wouldn't have to read too many threads on here to learn that! BUT good sex doesn't prove a good relationship exists.

There are lots of things that can make a relationship move quickly, just as there are lots of things that can make one's sexual accomplishments come (no pun intended) rapidly. One is chemistry. Another is opportunity... state of mind plays into it...

It might be smart (particularly at 16) to recognize this: the best relationships are not the ones that "just happen." How quickly a relationship moves and how it develops should have a degree of shared discipline so you both control the relationship and make it yours... it's pretty easy to be ruled by a relationship unintentionally.

In other words, talking about marriage is okay, but it might be more important at this stage for you to be talking about where you are and not so much where you are going. You need to see if you share values (for example), not just body parts. You should be exploring how you communicate about things... how much you truly "share" in terms of your expectations of each other and the relationship.

You're right, it has been a little rapid. That's not necessarily bad, but it's good that you are thinking about it... otherwise you'll possibly end up somewhere you never really wanted to go.

I think it's an important question (what made your relationship move so quickly) and it's good that you are asking it. Of course no one here can answer it. I hope you are discussing it with each other and I hope you'll both understand that "slowing down" wouldn't be negative. If you treasure the relationship you are building, it just makes sense to invest some time in it.

A good relationship includes moving forward... sometimes some pausing... and occasionally backing up.

[Newtolove]

well if you really intend to go till marriage then you havve no hurry for anything and will have time to think onn what you are doing and making sure you want it, in two years you could have a totaly different outlook on life but that really depends onn the two of you and your caracters so we cannot give very specific answers