What to say

[truck21]

Hello I come to you for advise on women. I'm a 21 year old man and i seem to be okay with talking to women and getting them to like me... The Big problem i have is that i run out of stuff to say .. 2 weeks ago i got stuck in the Airport and i some how got to talk to a 21 year old for at least 10 hours till out flight came in... but i notice that after a while i talk to someone it's like we both run out of stuff to say and my brain is going crazy on how to spark a better conversation up... i talk to women about everything but like 3 days later i fine my self running out of clues to talk about... What can i do to fix this problem and i also seem to not joke a lot with women....

[Browser]

Ask them about their interests and occupations. You can always start there and work to something that's mutually intersting.

[truck21]

Thats the thing i will ask them just about everything and in like 3 days it's like uh! The girl says oh i know everything you like and that it then she looks like if she is running out of things to say then the days get cut short..

[WallyLlama]

Relax. Ten hours is a long time to maintain a steady conversation... a couple of points (besides relaxing):

You're not 100% responsible for keeping the conversation going.

Remember it's a conversation; not an interview. You aren't simply finding out things about each other... you are sharing information, sharing thoughts and feelings and, in a sense, thinking together.

If you haven't learn the difference between open-ended and closed-ended questions.

How was your day? (Closed ended, only requires a one-word answer.)

Good.

What was best about it? (Open-ended, requires at least a couple of sentences...)

Do things that encourage conversation... go places, talk about the places, etc.

Perhaps most important: silence can be communication. Don't feel like every moment has to be filled with words!

[TommyPinchaloaf]

It depends on the scenario but being stuck in an airport you could have tried playing a game, or just wander around and let the environment do the talking. Theres a funny episode of Seinfeld where he says he needs an awkward pause in the conversation to make a move on a girl, so sometimes silence can be a good thing.

[Newtolove]

well if the silence is not embaressing then it means you are at a good point

[Luvs2plzU]

People LOVE to talk about themselves...so keep the topic on what they like etc..etc..etc..

[ensekofti]

Originally Posted by WallyLlama

Relax. Ten hours is a long time to maintain a steady conversation... a couple of points (besides relaxing):

You're not 100% responsible for keeping the conversation going.

Remember it's a conversation; not an interview. You aren't simply finding out things about each other... you are sharing information, sharing thoughts and feelings and, in a sense, thinking together.

If you haven't learn the difference between open-ended and closed-ended questions.

How was your day? (Closed ended, only requires a one-word answer.)

Good.

What was best about it? (Open-ended, requires at least a couple of sentences...)

Do things that encourage conversation... go places, talk about the places, etc.

Perhaps most important: silence can be communication. Don't feel like every moment has to be filled with words!

man, u always give the best answers!!! i ve learned a lot from u!! u should have real success whith women!!