New girlfriend is into kinky sex... please help

[Rongorongo Mu]

Hey everyone, this is a first-time post. I'm looking for some different opinions on this.

I'm currently dating a girl I have been friends with for three years. We recently confessed having feelings for each other and began dating. It's been about six weeks and things are going pretty well. We're at the point where we want to start exploring each other sexually, and she asked me some surprising questions. Basically, she asked me how open I was to the possibilities of biting/being rough with each other, some mild bondage like handcuffs or other restraints, and participating in threesomes.

The problem is I'm relatively inexperienced with sex. I've only had two sexual partners, and both were into fairly straightforward sex; we never tried anything really kinky. My girlfriend really feels the need to express herself sexually in these "creative" ways and I think the future of out relationship will probably depend on my openness and ability to experiment with her. However, I'm extremely nervous about underperforming. I am typically passive when it comes to sex-- the idea of getting aggressive, even rough, and employing restraints is very foreign to me.

Can anyone offer me any advice as to how to proceed?

[Brandye]

Consider this an experimental, possibly throwaway relationship. Agree to what you are curious about or comfortable with. Say no to the rest.

[Browser]

Experiment. My first serious girlfriend kept a pair of black, fuzzy handcuffs under her bed. We didn't use them until about six months in, and after that we just tried whatever we could think up to pleasure each other.

Just remember, use protection.

[Newtolove]

hm tell her what you are comfortable with at the moment and perhaps try some more if you want to later but she must be unnderstanding or take it as brandye said, threesomes i've heard are never what they are meant to be and cause a lot of problems

[tastes like kinkky]

let if flow... kinky is fun and entertaining.. but thats just me... dont be to shy about it, cause then it will be less fun. be open about what you want to try, and what you're against...unless she can "magically" convince you into liking things.... thats one thing im good at lol... its okay to be scared to try new things, its kind of like a phsycological securty / sexual security thing thats stops you from things like that.. but it can also help if your partner is experienced in that feild of expertice.... but anywho, dont let her just have her way, entertain her as she entertains you.

[ua322]

Originally Posted by Rongorongo Mu

Hey everyone, this is a first-time post. I'm looking for some different opinions on this.

I'm currently dating a girl I have been friends with for three years. We recently confessed having feelings for each other and began dating. It's been about six weeks and things are going pretty well. We're at the point where we want to start exploring each other sexually, and she asked me some surprising questions. Basically, she asked me how open I was to the possibilities of biting/being rough with each other, some mild bondage like handcuffs or other restraints, and participating in threesomes.

The problem is I'm relatively inexperienced with sex. I've only had two sexual partners, and both were into fairly straightforward sex; we never tried anything really kinky. My girlfriend really feels the need to express herself sexually in these "creative" ways and I think the future of out relationship will probably depend on my openness and ability to experiment with her. However, I'm extremely nervous about underperforming. I am typically passive when it comes to sex-- the idea of getting aggressive, even rough, and employing restraints is very foreign to me.

Can anyone offer me any advice as to how to proceed?

It's obvious that you two are probably not compatible for the long run. But like Brandye said, consider this a "throwaway relationship" and experiment with some of it. You might like it.