Please help, kinda od situation

[crazybouther]

soooo look,
im 14 years old, kinda sad i no but ive neva had a gf before and im so pissed off with being left outta all that and theres the girl i really really like and ive known her for like 2 years and we r friends and ive asked he out once before but she told me she just wanted 2 be friends because she thought itd ruin our friendship if we went out and now i really really wanna ask her out again but i dont know if i should cause i mite come off a bit sad... also im not sure if she thinks of me like a potential bf rather than a friend
so my question is this.........: how do i make myself more attractive to her? make her think that id be a really gd bf????




please someone help i really like her and i just think that if i dont get in on all the dating soon , ill be left out untill much later in life

HELP!!!!

[123456789]

Dont go out with friends.

I knew this girl for 2 or 3 years and she asked me out.. I really liked her aswell so i said yeh... so we went out together and It just didnt feel right and i preferred us as friends.
I didn't wanna kiss or do anything with her because i had known her for so long and it just didnt feel right. After 2 weeks she cheated on me anyway so... there ya go!

but, if you really really like her, then just ask her. She can either say yes or no and it wont make you look sad. The best way to do it in your situation is to write a letter and tell her how much you care etc etc because if you ask her out face to face it will b emuch more embarrasing and you wont be able to say all the things that you want to.

oh and before i forget- theirs no rush in dating... dont purposely go out and look for someone to be with as it doesnt usually work out.. I dont see why people rush at such an early age to get into a relationship.
i'm only 16 and I dont want a relationship until my life is sorted out as i've already had lots of relationships and they dont usually last long so I will wait until i find somebody that i really really really like!


good luck!

123456789

[crazybouther]

thanx, its just i feel really left out neva even kissed a girl so i figured that if i really like her like i do i dont wanna let her slip away so maybe ill tell her how i feel on the fone



thanks

[Newtolove]

hm I'm 23 never had a girl friend (living in a foreign country don't help) and I'm just waiting for the right girl don't be in a rush mind you don't wait as long as me. and you don't need to make your self more atractive she either likes you for what you are or not better than her falling for just a picture eh ?

[Fluffer]

Don't ask her out again. It was probably hard enough for you to ask the first time and hard enough for her to say no. Really, it IS hard for a girl to say no, because we don't want to hurt your feelings!!

I think you should find another girl to date and the first girl might get jealous and want to date you then. If not, HER LOSS!!

[Browser]

Don't date friends. Ever. It can turn a healthy friendship into the most awkward thing you've ever experienced. Go out and find someone who's friendly, attractive, and seems interested - she'll be a better bet than a close friend.

That being said, people you are acquainted with can be very good choices, as you already know each other and of each other.

More than anything though, just take your time and let it happen.

[Boris]

Well said Browser. I'm just about to turn 16, and I had my first kiss only back in march, so you're by no means alone. Many of my friends who have already turned 16 have never had a relationship of any kind with anyone.

From the sound of your problem, I'd probably say that you should back off from her. Try talking to some other girls too, otherwise you'll just spend time eating yourself up speculating over what might have happened. You need to think of the consequences of going out with your friend. What happens if you do something you regret? Your friend is right in saying that it could ruin your friendhip, you'd be walking on thin ice.

Just one last thing, don't take relationships too seriously at your age. Have some fun and enjoy being with your partner, but don't get into situations where you could easily do something you regret

Hope that helps, and good luck.

[crazybouther]

well thanx people ive pretty much got a straight answer from u all,"dont Date Friends" sooo i guess thats it thnks alot

[Mr. Informitive]

hey man, these guys know what they are talking about. listen to them.
im one of those people that did things too quick at a young age.
i lost my virginity when i was a little older than you.
im not the type to regret it at all though.
but its nothing worth rushing into. after i lost it, i just thought to myself "i could have waited longer"
just, thank god i lost it to the woman i love.

just dont worry about rushing into things, especially with friends.

[Westles]

Dude im with the rest of the crew! i slept with a friend of mine a few months back but i assured her that nothing was going to come outta this and i dont want a relaitionship ( i didint want to say with her cos it would hurt her feelings ) so anyway after a few weeks she was textin me and what not, but i had met this other girl ( who is my current girlfriend since 5 months ) and she got really pissed off because i started dating when i said i didint want a relationship. I lost quite a few friends over this which kinda sucked but life goes on, anyway moral to the story dnt date friends