07-11-2006, 07:30 PM
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please help
Hey guys. I have a story to tell and a question to ask. My question is when a guy(37 yrs) says he needs to think........... does he really need to think or is trying to break things off easy?
Ive been seeing this guy for only a few weeks, although we've known each other for about 2 yrs now. Anyhow, things seemes to be going good, we talked everyday and seen each other a few times a week. We were getting along great. We were supposed to go out last weekend (our first public encounter) We talkedon the phone....he was commen toget me and 2 hrs later called to say he needed to cancel.He wanted sometime to think. Now Ive no doubt that he does feel something towards me but I just dont get it. Ive been biting the bullet not calling or anything but its sooooooo hard. Ive been out of the dating world for about 12 yrs, so I really have no clue. Is he really thinking..............and how long do I give him? Would a week be enough? Was I dumped? 
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07-11-2006, 09:07 PM
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07-12-2006, 05:52 AM
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It is a little weird that you've been "seeing" him for a couple of weeks and he develops cold feet the first time you plan to "go out" (in public).
The dating game is only a game when you play it... it sounds like you are not a couple of kids, so there's really no reason to act like it. Call him up, ask him what he's thinking about. Or ask him if you can go out for coffee or something while he's thinking. You can't have a relationship with him if you let it be one-sided so get yourself in there... you may not like what you find, but it'll be better than waiting for him to figure out what he wants to do with you! I don't see the difference between "seeing each other" and "seeing each other in public." If that's what he's thinking about, make him explain it.
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07-12-2006, 06:09 AM
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Are you sure he isn't MARRIED??...as dumb as that seems...it's situations like you have just described that "flushes" those guys out??...just a thought...not tryin' to cause any trouble...
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07-12-2006, 08:13 AM
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Just wondering... If she has known him for two years, I think she knows if he's married or not.
I have had a need to think sometimes. Don't panic. Give him space. Then ask him what's his problem. If he doesn't want to be seen with you, I'd give him some more time, a month or two. It might not be anything serious. Women are not the only ones who have strange thoughts sometimes. He might be as confused as you are now.
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07-12-2006, 11:18 AM
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I don't understand. What is he thinking about? It's only been two weeks! I could see that if you've been dating for awhile and it was reaching another level, But it just sounds like he doesn't want to be seen in public with you. Maybe you should just back away from him for awhile and start seeing someone else. If later on he calls you fine, at least then you know he's interested. Just make sure that if he wants to see you you see him in a public place and not at your house or his
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07-13-2006, 03:43 PM
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In a relationship this new, I wouldn't worry too much about if he's blowing you off or not. You're not attached yet, so just go about your life. If he decides to call you after he's done "thinking," so be it, but you might have found someone else by then!
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