To nervous to talk

[devimo]

Hey,

My girlfriend and i have been going out for almost 3 years and we have never even held hands, but we do hug goodbye. We both want to kiss and all that but we are both 2 nervous or shy to do so.
Someone please help! Somehow?

bye,

[Boris]

No offence, but it doesn't sound like too much of a relationship. Anyway, I have found during my experience that physical contact (ie holding hands) leads to other things (ie kissing). The fact is, something small like holding hands can start a chain reaction, so to speak. So, be brave the next time you see her and gently take her hand, it may work. Plus, communication is key in any relationship, so try to find out why she is reluctant to have a more physical relationship, and try to solve that problem.

Best of Luck

Boris

[Marko]

You just gotta work up your confidence. If you've been with her for almost three years and you havent touched her lips, it may be about time, like Boris said, to let one thing lead to another. But dont force her, do it in a romantic moment or whatever, and onec youve kissed you'll want plenty more. And if that doesnt work, and if she doesnt like being kissed, its probably time to move on. GOod luck

[curious Al]

hmm, sounds like you both are very shy if you cant kiss. Like these guys have said, next time your with her, your going to have to lead the way. If your too nervous to jump in for a kiss, next time your walkin just grab her hand, dont ask her to holds hands bacuse that will make it feel wierd if shes nervous etc.

[worried teenager]

Hey Everyone,
I am just alittle worried about how my first time will go. My boyfriend and i have been together a long while now and we have have alot of chats about sex but, i am very worried about using a condom. Like it is what we want to use as our protection but i just dont know if i trust it. We will be using K-Y Jelly as our personal lubricant and i just want to make use that this lubricant is safe to use.

Thanks guys i need all the help i can get.

[Ryouko]

excuse me " worried teenager" Please start your own thread so people can help you with your problems. do not try to take over someone elses

[worried teenager]

Sorry i am not sure of how to start a new thread

[Explorer]

I agree with curious Al, but I'd do it a little differently.

As you are walking side by side, let your hand brush against hers a few times, so she has more time adjusting to the change. After a few "accidental" brushes slowly inch your fingers around hers. Grabbing her hand could be quite a shock if she really is that shy.

Once you make a habit of holding hands, start "accidentally" touching her to different non-sexual places. Once you are comfortable with touching each other, you can go for the kiss. After that, move to more sexual areas. One way for a first kiss is spending some time whispering to each others ears. Then kiss her neck. Most women love it. Just a gentle, soft, short kiss. See how she reacts. If she pulls away, do it again some other time. Or do it when you hug. Look into her eyes alot.

You have taken it very slowly for the last 3 years, there is no need to rush now.It's okay to spend a month doing what I decribed, but I wouldn't be surprised if you only took a day.

Keep touching her!

[Newtolove]

perhaps you need to find a secluded place where you can be more intimate comfortably

[ua322]

I think Mr. Kalar would tell you to go to Nevada.