Why Do Girls Want....

[Dean Keaton]

....a hard nut, ex-convict, drugged up nutter as their man?

I'm 20 and I feel I'm a decent enough guy but it seems too many girls these days prefer a more 'hard' (not u no wot!) guy to go out with. My ex, who is an intelligent and beautiful girl has just hooked up with a 37 year old ex-con who is a crack addict which is the opposite personality to me. We split up because I had to take a job far away and we'd only been going out a short while regardless.

Sadly, this is happening too often around my local town and it makes me wonder what the world and the current young generation is coming to. What do girls really see in people like that? They could do so much better, yet they throw their life away so pointlessly on someone who is a danger to them and (not being too stereotypical) is likely to play away a few hundred times.

So, come on girls, what do you see in people like that?

[ageless_gypsy]

Until about six months ago I was dating an emotionally abusive alcoholic. I was living with him for six months. Originally what attracted me to him was that he was fun and seemed to say "screw the consequences" with everything he did. It was exciting. During the time that I lived with him I grew and matured a lot. I am now dating a sweet, responsible man and I couldn't be more happy. But the point is, I had to learn the hard way, and I think most girls do.

[WallyLlama]

Yep, sometimes there's no explaining why people are attracted...

I do think sometimes (as Ageless points out) it is the excitement that's the attraction. There's probably always been a little of the "bad boy" thing going on... but it does seem like today's generation requires a lot of excitement and stimulation. Interesting difficulty... deciding what the attraction really is...

[ORANGE]

i had the same type of problem

i have no answer.

may be she thinks that the price to pay will not be that bad.

i use to live next to a neighor who his wife cheated on him with a drug dealer

long story short the husband left her. they both lost a good house in an a good neighbor hood. she sold all children toys for next to nothing just to get out of there. i really feel sad for the kids. the boy friend left her shortly after the husband left when the bill to the next month house payment was due.

i really feel sorry for the children. i wanted to buy the toy and give it back to the children, but i knew the mom would have just sold toy again any way. i hope the wife was not a drug actict..

[curious Al]

maybe its like... Why do guys go for the girls with big boobs and a tight ass! but for ladies... why do women go for the ex-con, no-good etc?!?!?!

[moose_hd]

Women are physically attracted to guys who are very strong, assertive and self-confident. The abusive ex-convict biker type dudes have confidence in abundance. Attraction isn't a choice and some women get burned over and over again by these guys before they learn. (And by then, they are older, probably single moms, and have fewer physical charms to work with to attract a good guy who's willing to date a single parent.)

Of course, you don't have to be a convict or domestic abuser to be self-confident! How you nurture such characteristics in yourself is a totally individual decision, but developing more assertiveness and confidence can co-exist with being loving and respectful. Reaching that "middle-ground" is where being a good guy meets with being attractive to women.