How Do meet a Guy With Similar Interests

[vcu2006]

I am a 27 year old female and don't have any experience with dating. I have always focused on other things, such as school, family, and friendships. How can I meet someone with similar interests and values? I'm not into the whole bar or club scene. I would eventually like to find Mr. Right, get married and have children. When I was I younger, I always thought that I would be married or at least in a serious relationship at this point in my life. I realize that most men my age have probably already had sex, but I want I to wait for the right time with the right guy. Any help or advice on my situation would be greatly appreciated.

[dancingdoc2]

When this question has come up in the past my answer has always been to place yourself where others of like mind are likely to be found.

* If you enjoy a particular hobby, then look for a special interest group or club and join.
* If you enjoy a particular sport, then join in where men are likely to be found
* If you are interested in other activities, do likewise.

* Alternately, join in activities in which you would like to know more. For example, I participate in Ballroom dancing and go dancing two or three times a week in addition to teaching students. I also fly so you can find me hanging around the airport a lot. I enjoy still photography, so am involved with others who share my interest in both taking pictures as well as tweaking the finished images. I am always around men and women and socializing with people.

* Church is another way to meet people. In addition, your connections with people give you other avenues because you can tell your newfound friends that you are looking for Mr. Right and enlist their support. It's called networking. Get family members and coworkers involved in your search, also.

I agree with you that the bar or club scene is not likely to produce the type of results you desire.

> I realize that most men my age have probably already had sex, but I want I to wait for the right time with the right guy.

There is nothing wrong with this position. I believe that first ever sex as Part II of the marriage ceramony permits the psyches to meld. The vagina is the gateway to a woman's soul; the penis is the essence of man. When the two join for the first time and within the bounds of matramony the two individuals truly join to become as one if only for a moment. Sex any other time seems to make this transmutation more difficult from all that I can gather. Also, keep in mind that even when one or both of you have had sex before, or become married a second time, that the experience of melding the psyches while, good, often does not seem to be as profound as the very first time having just said "I DO".

You are probably correct in that finding a bachelor at 27 who has not had sex is going to be like looking for a needle in a haystack. They are out there, so it is worth the quest. Even if you find a guy or guys who look for all the world like they could be a good candidate for being Mr. Right and they have a "history" that includes a prior marriage or relationship(s), so what? This brings up the next thing I regularly tell mostly guys who are concerned about new relationships, particularly if they have little or no experience compared to their partner.

Each time a couple forms a new partnership, a new and unique pairing is formed. Previous experience equates to knowledge not skill. Each new relationship is comprised of two people with likes, dislikes, preferences, quirks, and fears, and each of these things have to be worked through. So, prior experience really does matter little. What does matter is that the two of you explore and learn together.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?