What to say.

[CenterOfAttention]

I realize this has nothing to do with sex, other than the fact it might come out of my question (in a couple YEARS...lol hopefully months.), but what are some good things to talk about to a girl that is probably the most geniunely beautiful angel on earth? ive never met her, ive talked to her thru the intrenet a little, and kno a little about her. i do know that i am extreamly attracted to her, just like every guy on the planet is/would be, so im worried that shell think im just another guy. i kno that i should be myself, and all that ****, im just looking for some good things to talk about, i dont kno that much about what she likes, and doesnt. i really seriously do want to get to kno this girl tho, because im sick of bitchy girlfriends. oh, and this is a party, so theres plenty of other ppl around, wow im off topic,
so anyway, guys--> what did u talk to ur girlfriends about when u first met them?
girls--> what do u remeber about what ur bfs said/did before u were going out?
thanks

[orchid]

you say you don't know about what she likes and doesn't and that makes it hard to find things to talk about? <---there's your topic. find out what she likes and doesn't. talk about family, friends, school, music, movies...


but just a warning...if your converstion isn't flowing naturally when you do get started talking to her, that's not a good thing. if it just seems like small talk, you might not really have anything in common and a sign that it's just not meant to be. but don't necessarily think this right away, when you are first initiating a conversation, you might have moments like that, but if it keeps happening, then i might question it.

[WallyLlama]

Expect to be a nervous wreck. And realize that she probably is as well.

Find a balance. Remember that you are not talking to her, you are trying to stimulate conversation. MOST people enjoy talking about themselves, so ask a lot of questions. But don't interrogate her.

Ask her what she thinks about (school, music, etc.) and LISTEN. Follow up her answer with some thoughts of your own.

You might even consider asking for her help. "I'm a nervous wreck... will you help me keep the conversation moving?"

[Newtolove]

hm difficult one but it is trues that if things do not flow naturally then it may just not be meant to be. I found a lot in common with one girl and we seemed to share the same points of veiw where as the girl before I had tried to get on with was like hitting a brick wall.

[Browser]

It depends on the people involved. Find common grounds, tell amusing stories of dumb things you've done in the past, talk about movies, music, sports, politics... anything, really. As long as the two of you are amused and interested in the conversation and time together, it doesn't matter what you're talking about. I often bring up the most silly or absurd topics I can think of when I'm talking to people simply because they're entertaining.

[ua322]

Originally Posted by CenterOfAttention

I realize this has nothing to do with sex, other than the fact it might come out of my question (in a couple YEARS...lol hopefully months.), but what are some good things to talk about to a girl that is probably the most geniunely beautiful angel on earth? ive never met her, ive talked to her thru the intrenet a little, and kno a little about her. i do know that i am extreamly attracted to her, just like every guy on the planet is/would be, so im worried that shell think im just another guy. i kno that i should be myself, and all that ****, im just looking for some good things to talk about, i dont kno that much about what she likes, and doesnt. i really seriously do want to get to kno this girl tho, because im sick of bitchy girlfriends. oh, and this is a party, so theres plenty of other ppl around, wow im off topic,
so anyway, guys--> what did u talk to ur girlfriends about when u first met them?
girls--> what do u remeber about what ur bfs said/did before u were going out?
thanks

Probably part of the reason you are head over heels for this girl is the fact that you know nothing about her. You are free to dream about how perfect she is and how much superior she is to the "bitchy" gf's you've had.

Well, she's not perfect. And there's about a 2% chance - based on what little you know now - that anything could ever happen between you two. So quit building this up to be some big event.

Just go up to her and talk to her. Ask her about herself and try to learn her interests and background. If she answers and then asks about you then BAM!, you have a conversation.

You can't MAKE her fall in love with you, so don't try. Just be yourself, but force yourself to be confident and don't worry about how she's perceiving you.

There really is NOTHING to lose.

[Newtolove]

yea thats right nothing to loose and she probably is not waht you think she is, I fancied a girl for four years but as she was four years younger than me I kept cool until we were of a more suitable age but when I did try to make conversation it was just disastrous as I said like hiting a brick wall so I realized that I had wasyed a lot of time.

[truck21]

some people don't think it's about age i think it's about whos' on whos' level

[Browser]

What do you mean by "level"?

[Newtolove]

Well if your refering to me truck21 at the age of 19 and 23 it just would not work so we were evidently on "different levels" I mean I met a girl only a year older than her and we get on great, not my girlfriend yet but I am miles ahead with her as oposed to the other girl as i said four years I've known her, now I met this girl and after two days together and 6 months phoneing and writing (we are in different countries) we are really great friends