bad fantasies????

[bren321]

my boyfriend asks me all the time "what is some of your fantasies" i have only one or two since i met him. he asks all the time and i tell him you don't want to know it. it's about me having sex with his two guy friends. i have asked about his and we have roleplayed and did one of his fantasies, he wanted me to be with a girl while he watched. i did it and liked it some too. he got the bennys though. i let him play with me and her. he once bought me a dildo and we use it alot. he always asks me who it is doing me, i tell him it's one of his freinds. he loves it. he even likes to watch me give him and the dildo head.
he begged me to tell him my fantasy so i did, he got mad after i told him that i would like to do two of his friends at the same time while he watches. first he said o like just stroke them and let them cum? i said no the whole deal, blow jobs, letting them both rotate around me intil they cum on my face. he has pissed off. so it's ok to let me be with another girl while you get to do me and her together and cum in her mouth but it's not for me i said. and i said you love it when i tell you that eddie is f*cking me (dildo using).

he told me to ask all of you at sexinfo, if you were in the same postion would you let your girlfreind do it. [/I][/B]
(most likely it would be all three at the end)
also if yes you would how would you do it.

[demonbuttercup]

Well I agree that he can't be double sided. Its ok for him to have sex w/ another girl but not you another guy?
I am not much help otherwise b/c I have never been in that situation of 3somes and doubt I will be =\

[Sweetness12]

thats almost like my guy. he wants me to tell him what i want... but i cant because i just dont want him to know... My fantasy is for my best friend and her boyfriend, who just happens to be my boyfriends brother to do stuff with us... if I tell him that he would be like NO! big time. so i dont know what to do... being one sided is always really stupid...he wants me to tell him.. he's told me he wants roleplaying and stuff.. but just us. no one else

[dancingdoc2]

> he told me to ask all of you at sexinfo, if you were in the same postion would you let your girlfreind do it.

Real life 3-somes are a real life hazard. Rarely do they turn out good.

Now, if you and your boyfriend want to assume the role of certain characters within the fantasy then more often than not, no harm no foul.

Fantasies are just that....
They often should remain private particularly when it is possible to injure the "fragile male ego". Because of this, I have recommended in the past that you create a script for a "public" fantasy that can be shared, true or not, who is to know.

Lesson learned, ya don't want to bruse the fragile male ego. We can take a lot of hits, but the slightest abrasion, here, will devistate our sense of self and worth.

There is a hugh difference between roll playing and acting out in reality. Threesomes rarely if ever turn out good in the real world. In the world of fantasy, anything goes and is fair game because it is just that--figments of the imagination designed to arouse.

Your boyfriend needs to understand that what you and he fantasize about are harmless expressions and have no bearing on the relationship and bond between you. Your scripts are not unlike playing doctor or nurse in which one of you assumes the roll of one of the characters. That he assumes the roll of one of his boyfriends or that you assume the roll of some other girl should stimulate not stifle the experience.

Now, having said all this, it might not be too bad of an idea to let the boyfriend or you be the better more accomplished person in the "play" than are the characters being portrayed . The reason your boyfriend is upset is because he is afraid of being perceived in your eyes as, or coming out the underdog in this scenario. Of course this is not logical, and this is why you have to bolster his sense of self worth. He has to know that he is the be all end all for you regardless of how many imaginary characters are in your fantasies.

[WallyLlama]

Would I "let" my girlfriend do it?

In a word, "no."

(Just in case we're voting. LOL)

But there are some other "no's." No, we would not have had a threesome with another girl. Since your relationship with him is apparently based on a lopsided balance of power, a case could be made that he should allow you your fantasy and threesome - he got his.

You might take note that he only wants you to have fantasies that he approves of... engage in threesomes that he benefits from... insists you answer questions that you'd rather not.. Now he's told you to post here probably knowing full well the vast majority are going to "vote" with him.

I think his "fragile male ego" might benefit from a few more bruises. I'd suggest you lay off the fantasies and threesomes and start talking about some equality in the relationship.

[bren321]

my boyfriend let me know after us talking all night that he would let me do it. but only under his rules, you will not believe this, only one at a time, missionary style, no bj's, and they both have to wear rubbers, and the last thing is they can't cum on you. he also said that because i wanted two of his friends could he have a fling with another one of my friends. i said yes but only under one condition, that i could change a few rules, just a little. he agreed to it. he asked if my friend amy could atleast lick him he would be happy. so friday is the day it's going to happen and i'll reply here to let you know what happens. if anyone has any opinions or ideas let me know,
thanks, bren

[WallyLlama]

Originally Posted by bren321

...so friday is the day it's going to happen and i'll reply here to let you know what happens. if anyone has any opinions or ideas let me know,
thanks, bren

Sounds like it's a little late to offer opinions and ideas...

I certainly do hope you will reply and let us know what happens. Not so much on Friday... but on Monday... and a week from now... and...

[learning]

Hey bren, I hope things turn out good for you guys. I am not about to say do not do it but would like to suggest that one of your rules be that no comparisons be made between you and amy, or your boyfriend and his friends. This (comparisons) can only lead to trouble, use the experience to enhance you future sex together by all means, use the visuals, positions etc but try not get involved in discussing with your boyfriend who is the better lover, bigger (although this is often VERY apparrent) etc.

Enjoy and be careful!

[bren321]

thank you learning and wally, for all your input on this stuff. when my boyfriend did my other friend lisa, he only had good things to say about me. like i was tighter, shaved better, no one can s*ck a better dick than you. i know it was meant to just make me feel that i was more important than her. i know why he wants to do these girls, because they are hot. all three of us were cheerleaders in highschool. i even think lisa and amy are hot. i have talked to amy about friday and she said she would like to do it too. she asked if we were doing it all in the same room. i told her john (my bf) wants to watch me with them. amy said o he won't have time to watch. and she asked if one of the guys wanted to stray my way is that ok? i said sure.

[curious Al]

I think that he is pissed about the fact you want to sleep with his friends rather then another two random guys. If that was the case with me, i would be angry too. Not the facts that she wants to sleep with two guys at the same time, but because they were my friends. That would piss me off alot! You didnt say if the girl you slept with while he watched was a friend of either of your two's, but if she was, i guess hes being a bit selfish.

But my personal view would be that i would be pissed if my g/f wanted to have sex with 2 of my friends.