Please Read and help.. my lifes **** without him

[xx_hot-chick_xx]

Right its a big story so i hope ur up for reading it...
** not really his name
At the beginning of February i met this guy names *Dave*. Hes 21 im 16. we just Automatically clicked and had a very strong connection. We then made us official. I've never been so happy, he just made me feel so complete. Last week, i felt he was sort of off with me, i didnt have a clue what was going on. Then he finished it. My life has just turned upside down, coz he is so special to me. He said the age gap was to big for us to have a long-term relationship. i was so hurt i just wanted to get over him as fast as i could. i kept telling myself i was over him, n was starting to believe it. Then one night was out with mates who are also his mates, he ended up coming out. As soon as i saw him all my feelings jus like bombarded me. We didnt talk. then just after his mate dropped me off he txt me saying hello 2 u2 tb. It proper got my hopes up, wen he carried on txting me. When he called me Sexy, i told him not to. and even though i wanted him to stop txting me when he said i didnt have to txt him, i jus couldnt stop my self. Well.. Previous that day i txt my mates ex, who wanted to meet up wen i was taken so i said no. i fort YES moving on. so we arranged to meet in a couple of days. back to my ex txting me, he started being a prick so i said glad uve moved on me to ive met some1 new. he was like when, and i told him that it was a couple of weeks ago when he asked to meet, but i said no. Then he started accusing me of cheating on him and saying my feelings were boolocks. As id realised how i still felt i told the other guy i couldnt meet him coz i didnt wana muck him round. My ex also said he couldnt trust me anymore and i wasnt an honest person. this really hurt me coz i would never lie to him or cheat on him. Any way since then we've been txting, but he says he just wants to be mate. at first i was wary coz i fort it would be awkward when we see eachother, but then i fort i dont wana loose him any more than i do. What im trying to say is that my feelings for him are so strong and i love him in everyway possible, i do really think he still feels the same, but hes just scared of gettin hurt. Ive told him how i feel, but for some reason hes got his heart set on being mates. i dont want us to be mates i want us to be lovers again. im so hurt. i just feel like my lifes not gona be the same anymore. i feel so down all the time, i try and keep it to myself but everyones noticing, friends, family, teachers. my heads so ****ed up. please give me advice on how to get him bk.... it would be much appreciated x

[xx_hot-chick_xx]

Please Reply i really need help. but feel i cant talk to my friends x

[pozzolane]

There's absolutely no way of "winning" someone back. You cannot control other peoples emotions. It all sounds very dramatic. What I suggest to you is to get him out of your system entirely. Do not have any contact with him.

Concentrate on your school and surround yourself with friends. When you are completely over him and possibly even seeing other people (ie: more than one), then I think it would be safe to continue a friendship with him.

[xx_hot-chick_xx]

i see him every weekend though, im not gna stop going out with my mates jus coz hes gonna be there.

[Brandye]

Put your effort into keeping yourself whole - and learning to write. Five years difference at that point is eons. If he does come back it will be for the sex and will again be short-lived.

[xx_hot-chick_xx]

We only had sex a couple of times, we prefered doing oral.. no1 understands for f*ck sake.

[Newchic]

Everyone understands....EVERYONE has had a broken heart there is no cure, there is no one that can do this for you. You are on your own. People can give advice (like done above) does not make a lick of difference. Wish there was a miracle solution but there is not sweetie. Just takes time. You are young and just need a few more years under your belt. It eventually stops hurting so bad.

[pozzolane]

It doesn't sound like you want advice. Because if you did you would recognize that you've been given it several times now here. You're looking for some kind of miracle where you get whatever you want. Life's not like this. And I couldn't agree with Brandye more. He's just looking for sex. That's why I told you to not have contact with him.

Life doesn't end at 16 if the person you have feelings for doesn't feel back for you in the same way. You are still young and have a lot of learning to do. If theres anything you can do from this it's asking yourself what you've learned from it. Learn from this and move on.

You will most likely fall in love a few more times yet in your day.

[WallyLlama]

Not to mention the fact that you may be looking at statutory rape if he's 21 and you're 16. That's a pretty good reason not to be lovers.

Beyond that, the reason I don't understand is that I don't understand. What exactly is the problem...?

[jayliverpool]

how could it be rape if she is 16? thats is the right age