ex-bf still in the picture

[Mattbbb3]

Ive been dating my girlfriend for about 4 months, everything is going great but her ex boyfriend still seems to be in the picture. we are in love but she just got out of a two year relationship a while back. I dont blame her for still being a bit attached to him but it seems like she still loves him and thinks about him alot. Should i just realize it will never go away and not think about it or should i be worried she might leave me. I just dont know what to think about it because this is my first real girlfriend who i care about.

[ua322]

She needs to disengage from the ex. Don't get serious with this girl until she's ready to move on. It sound slike she's using you for a backup plan.

[Brandye]

ditto, ua. Wait until encumbrences are removed.

[WallyLlama]

Times three with this suggestion: Ask her what she means by "getting out of a relationship." While you haven't offered a lot of specifics, it sounds like she hasn't?

[bluesexy69]

I diagree it is possible for her not to have feelings for her
ex. But still want to be friends with him. It depends on how
strong your bond with her is and your selfesteam. If this
relationship is going to work. Me and my husband have been
together for over five years. My ex still comes around and we
talk on the phone almost every day. My husband has no problem
with it because he knows I no longer want to be with my ex. He
also understands that my ex WAS a big part of my life. You have
to be honest with her and trust that what she says is true. If you
can't do those two things. You shouldn't be in this relationship or
any for that fact. Because without trust and honesty you can't
expect a relationship to grow.