Help Me

[macka_123]

HEY guys,

i have a problem with a girl that i really really like(i thin k it might even be my first love). ill strt from the start, She is this unbelievable chick who gets along with nearly everybody, she started working at the club i work at(i'm almost 16 so its like casual work) about a year and a half ago. i liked her since day one and me and her get along real well now,(she went to a boarding school so i only saw her on holidays at work).

she finished school this year, she is 18 2yrs oldershe wen to uni. i thought i was over her but she came back and to my suprise she is now living directly across the road from me until the end of the year, when she is leaving for uni, the same uni as my bro in brissy may i add. ok so me and her get along great. i finally grew the balls to tell her how i feel like everything, i told her that she seems like the only one for me right now and that i have tried o get past her but i can't(i have told her these thing b4 but i was really drunk those times so she thought she could ignor me) now when i tlk to her its seems the same, like nohing happened.

she says were friends but when we tlk i get the feeling she is flirting and at partys she is always lookin out for me and i am so confussed.

if u gathered any sense from this please help me i really would like my first everything to be with this amazing chick.

p.s i havent kissed a girl yet

thanx

[dancingdoc2]

The sense I have of your situation is this:
At your ages there is just too much of a difference in maturity levels. First, because girls just naturally mature sooner than boys; secondly, because of the rate of maturation in general. She is just too old for you at this point. You are two years younger and this makes for a huge difference at your respective ages.

At almost sixteen, you need to be hanging with boys your own age, or just beginning to include girls into your circle of friends. Personally, I believe you should not be dating exclusively until much older for two reasons. First, because of all the drama and tension that comes from having a lot of girl friends at this age; second, because kids your age should be dating lots of people so you are able to sample what humanity has to offer. In doing this you are exposed to a lot of different people and will make better choices when the time comes to actually choose Ms Right.

You really need to be associating with kids your own age for a couple more years. Give yourself time to "grow up" and mature, before dating anyone much older than you. In four years, a two year difference will not be as great as it is now. I recommend that the two of you remain friends and if you want to do things together, fine. Just do not make it an exclusive relationship. Keep in mind also, that when she actually finds herself on a college campus, her life will be drastically different than yours, thus her interests, experiences, and, friends.

[macka_123]

i understand were you are coming from, but i am not just a sixteen yr old who looks up at 18 yr olds and thinks they r cool.

most of my friends are 18, c my brother is 19 now and i get along better with his friends better than any of mine and they also like me. also the only good friends i have my age a about 5 or six girls and my other friends that are girl are around that 18 19 age bracket.

i don't think age has an affect at all on our relationship at this time, we r both maturing adult in our eyes so if anyone ELSE could throw some advice my way it would be appreciated.

i do also realise that once she goes to university that she will change, hat is why i want to have as much fun as possiblenow.