guy has girlfriend

[apriltomay]

So, I met a guy and he has a girlfriend. I really like him or I should say that I really like having sex with him. We have done it once and now he is saying that e can't anymore because he wants to be loyal to his gf. I respect that, but I want to still be with him. His gf does not live in the same town as we do, so she would never find out. He still looks at me that way and talks like he wants me. He is always complimenting me on my clothes and how I look. He says that we can be friends, but we can't go out anywhere because if he's out with me he will just want to "be with me". What the hell kinda crap is that??? What do you think I should do? How do I get him to realize that he's being ridiculous?

[Brandye]

Tell him. Or get used to being the local "point of release" (when necessary).

[ua322]

Originally Posted by apriltomay

So, I met a guy and he has a girlfriend. I really like him or I should say that I really like having sex with him. We have done it once and now he is saying that e can't anymore because he wants to be loyal to his gf. I respect that, but I want to still be with him. His gf does not live in the same town as we do, so she would never find out. He still looks at me that way and talks like he wants me. He is always complimenting me on my clothes and how I look. He says that we can be friends, but we can't go out anywhere because if he's out with me he will just want to "be with me". What the hell kinda crap is that??? What do you think I should do? How do I get him to realize that he's being ridiculous?

With your current mentality, I can tell you that you have a lifetime emotional pain and rollercoaster relationships ahead of you. If you really need advice on what to do in this situation, then I seriously doubt that you are the type of person who is apt to follow that advice.

[baseballcatchinglegend]

if its causing him problems then i dont think him and his gf were meant to be. just be upfront with him. and if he still just want to be freinds then there is no reason why you cant meet up. like i said just now, if its causing him problems then it wasnt meant to be.

[ua322]

Originally Posted by baseballcatchinglegend

if its causing him problems then i dont think him and his gf were meant to be. just be upfront with him. and if he still just want to be freinds then there is no reason why you cant meet up. like i said just now, if its causing him problems then it wasnt meant to be.

So if he cheats on his girlfriend, then it's not his fault because it obviously "wasn't meant to be"? That's asinine.

This guy is wrong for cheating and using April for sex.

April is wrong for having sex with a guy behind his girlfriend's back and then thinking that is acceptable behavior.

[Luvs2plzU]

whoa whoa...we mustn't assign blame towards each other.... but we certainly could discuss the "relaxed moral behavior" being exhibited and then used as an excuse!! LOL ....ahhhhhhh hell...call it as you see it...no guessing involved with the interpretation !!

[Lackadaisical]

IMO, they both did something wrong (April and the b/f) and continuing to try to do it again is only doing something else wrong. Tell him, and his girlfriend ought to know about this as well, but no-one ever seems to tell someone else when they're being cheated on...

[Newtolove]

if he feels that strongly about you then he should switch girls. if he loves both of you at the same time then I would not call this a good candidate bf. but it looks like you are ok being his other girl ! I sugggest you find your self another boy unless this one is willing to come to his senses

[ua322]

Originally Posted by Lackadaisical

IMO, they both did something wrong (April and the b/f) and continuing to try to do it again is only doing something else wrong. Tell him, and his girlfriend ought to know about this as well, but no-one ever seems to tell someone else when they're being cheated on...

Exactly. His girlfriend is the one unwilling participant in this scenario. She is being lied to and April is a willing paricipant in the lie.

[Newtolove]

also bear in mind if he's cheating on her he could cheat on you too if you ever get together. he needs to get his prioritys straight - you too !