Re-Kindling lost love

[jj_afroman]

OK, well there's this girl that I've known for about the past year and a few months ago (the summer) we began to get close. I was 15 at the time, so this dosent mean serious dating or anything, we just talked online everynight and I'll call her once in a while (like 3 times a week). So we got to talking a lot about sex and sexually related things...basically teasing eachother. She told me that she wanted to make out and all that but I wasn't too comfortable because I've never experianced anything of that sort yet. I guess she got turned off by this because we seldom see eachother anymore and I'm begining to feel she dosen't like me anymore. I guess what I'm trying to ask is, is there anything that I can say or do to let her know that I still like her ... a lot, and that I think I'm ready to have a physical relationship? Any advice is appreciated.

[jj_afroman]

I can't get this girl off of my mind, I think about her when I wake up, and I think about her when I go to sleep. When I think of how close we where and how I messed up and didn't ask her out ... it tears me up inside. I was so close to something that I wanted so badly and I DIDN'T do anything about it ... I've never confessed my love to a girl before per se, and the only thing I ask is for help in this subject...

[Brandye]

It is a huge leap from online and telephone teasing about sex and actually getting to it. You were not as close as you think. You were each using the other to test boundaries of boy-girl talk. You happened to get hooked because this was the first time you had ever encountered in sexual boy-girl talk.

There are lots more girls and, surprise, we are all more alike than different! See if you can use what you learned from that contact in developing other contact.

[Kazman]

jj_afroman, I hear your pain. But Brandye does make a good point. I remember in the past where I thought I was close, but really, in retrospect, I wasn't. Don't let it eat you up inside. Like Brandye said, use what you learnt from that contact.