a girls annoying freinds

[SCAR]

my buddy has a problem and i couln't help. can u?

He attracted this girl but he hates (as i understand it the hatered is mutual)some of her freinds. what can he do about being with her and not worrying about her freinds?

[ShadesRuda]

hehe,
if he figures it out, let us all know.


Seriously, the only thing he can do is deal with it. Put on a brave face, and make the experience less painful by trying. If they don't appreciate the effort, or try as well, they're not great friends for her either. That is, if she likes him too. It's unfortunate that when something goes wrong in a relationship, girls will tell their girlfriends for advice and support. If he does something and she gets upset, she's going to tell her friends and they're going to like him even less. He's got to be a really good person in order to gain their respect.

[adam]

I wonder... is disliking a serious portion of a girl's friends a sign that the relationship probably isn't destined to last in the first place? Aside from the sheer amount of drama you'd have to face from those friends, everyone looks for similar properties of people in different kinds of relationships. I, personally, wouldn't be afraid to let those people know that I could quite care less what they think of me, and to that extent, wouldn't be afraid to let them know of what I think of them. What happens then is that you alienate the girl from her friends. And we all know that kind of a relationship won't last very long.

On a more practical level, the two of you simply may not be compatible if you aren't compatible with a serious amount of her friends.

[WallyLlama]

Sometimes this is raw jealousy. The don't want him around because she's THEIR friend. He doesn't want them around because she's HIS friend.

Most of these sort of issues are about defining the relationshp and it's parameters... how things work. Does it really matter if he hates her friends? Are they all going out together?

Now if he wants to CHOOSE her friends... that's a different topic.

[SCAR]

she does hang arond with them a lot she and her freinds are close