Kiss then talk or talk then kiss

[Newtolove]

so what is the best order to do it in normally ? i mean say we are quite close as friends and maybe she is showing signs of wanting to go to the next level would it be best to tell her how I feel first or at an oportune moment especially if she seems willing (yea bet that only happens in holiwood) kiss her and then talk about things with her. note I never kissed a girl before so maybe the reverse is best ? at least have time to say "I migh muck this up" (she has already had one bf)

[SCAR]

if she shows signs of attraction go for it tell her how u feel.
lifes to short to hang around, great relationships come from good freindships
as for the kiss explain that u are new to relationships and she should understand go slow soft and what feels natural

[champloo]

i had the same problem man.

only my first kiss was forced, because we all was in a pool at her party, and her friends saw me topless...and then they pushed her....

you know, i nearly bit her nose.

i dont think you should talk at all...well, depending on what you are doing...

kinda awkward for me to explain, which is why i cant sorry.

i have a really good idea, but its too hard to explain.

[Newtolove]

I kinda get ur point just take it as it comes

[champloo]

yes!

that works!

seriously, i was going for something like that.

[Newtolove]

ok it's just that i wouldn't want to create an awkward situation but you have to risk it now and then I suppose

[champloo]

yeah, but.

dont try to make out with your girlfriend for the first kiss, ive found that doesnt work.

my official kiss was the same night as the night of her party, and i found that i was EXTREMELY nervous when her friends was around, so i pushed them all out of her room and then kissed her.


just dont like try to kiss her in the middle of talking or something like that. it would be a little weird for her to be talking to you about something and then you interupt by kissing her.

you know what i mean, right?

[pozzolane]

Well I'm assuming you two aren't "dating" yet right? Just friends so far, but possibly more in the near future. I find this is a great way to do it. Wait till your hanging out just the two of you. You're talking and enjoying a nice convo (keep her talking naturally) preferably you two are already in close proximity so you don't have to reach too far and you can get in quickly. simply put: "go for it!" if she looks at you weird afterwards just say

"I'm so sorry I just couldn't help myself" and act all embarrased.

The thing is if shes a really nice girl and really likes you she will like the kiss and probably kiss you back. If she only sees you as a friend but really likes you as her friend she'll be just as worried about it getting awkard as you and will just forgive it. If this happens, just say it was so tempting and you just felt impelled to do it. But now that you know how her reaction is you can appologize and tell her it won't happen again.

Going in for the kiss is a great way to know for sure if shes into you as more than a friend or not. Don't put too much pressure on it though! if it doesn't happen don't worry about it.

[Newtolove]

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[champloo]

YES!

finally, someone said what i havent been able to say!!

thanks pozzolone!!