Awesome.......awesome.....friends?

[closet_monster]

Alright here we go. So I had a gf that I have been with but nolonger in love with for a long time. Used to be friends, knew she really loved me and I didn't want to hurt her. But, I went to college finally and I met a girl. She had a bf and we got along awesome, I finally broke up with the gf and came to find out this girl, awesome girl who I got along with awesome wasn't happy with this guy. So I talked to her tried to help her out with the **** that was happening between them, etc. We were friends and that was fine. Then the kegger happened and well we kissed and talked and well we passed out together in the basement, lol. Anyway of course she feels bad because she is still with this guy and I told her that I didn't expect her to break up with him cause of what happened or anything, but she did. She told me she doesn't want to need anyone right at this time which was fine. But as we hung out more and she would always cuddle up to me and could never stop kissing me when we would just lay there and have naps as sappy as that is...I'm girl, sorry, lol. But yah, closer and closer, we would hang out all the time, I would make her dinner( were both vegatarians, so I cook the food she likes, lol), little foolin around here and there, months go by and back to back sleep overs happen, then the strike happens, she goes home for two weeks, the everynight phone call i miss you turns into lets be friends. And well it sucks because well she got real emottional about it and said she likes me and cares about me, but she thinks it's best for now, but she kept sayin she felt bad cause she led me on when she didn't want to need anyone and well I need her. I was ok with the friends thing, but when we hang out we have fun, but it turns into her acting all weird. Does she realize she is having a good time and what is her fear? Please I need help, I'v never met a girl that I get along with so well.

[champloo]

i know remotely how you feel...

cant really give you help, but i hope what you want to happen, happens

[vagabondprince]

it sounds like she's set rules for herself pertaining to relationships, like she has to be single for x amount of time so the next relationship isn't a "rebound" relationship. but it sounds a little like you were the rebound guy for her, which kind of sucks because from the gossip i always hear it's rare that a rebound guy turns into something serious.

the situation you described kind of reminds me of my ex and i after she and i broke up...i was kind of my own rebound guy. anyway, keep talking to her, maybe she'll come around. if not just remember how many more fish there are in the sea. some of them suck, but a great catch will come along. it did for me.