How do i ask a girl out

[Drummer_dude]

how do i ask a girl out it's really bothering me i just dont know how to get to the point and know what to say.I mean i've got the the confidence and energy beacuse i do perferming arts and im in a band.My mates say it's easy but sayin g will you go out wit me is kinda cheesy.

[Newtolove]

try this just draw her asside and bluntly say hey what about us going out together ?. well I only ever did it once I got an elllusive reply as she did not want to say no but understood where I stood (nowhere as far as she was concerened) but I felt better having got it off my stomach. if she wants to go out with you almost any way will provide a good response if she does not want to go out at the most you will get ellusive answers like I did but you judge what her answer might mean.

[Drummer_dude]

i dont understand what u mean bye asside and ellusive

[champloo]

what he meant was lead her away from the group, like instead of in the middle of a hall way, around the corner where no one is at.

and by ellusive, i guess he meant it was a good response (for him i mean)

boy, i wish it was that easy though. because you surely can get rejected in different ways than one.

lets see, she could yell, curse you out, hit you with her purse/handbag (etc.), or, she could do a combination of those, and also she could slap you in the face and then say "get a life".

im just thinking of harsher tones though, she may politely say "no thanks" or "im too busy for a guy right now" or one of those other lies women are so GOOD at creating.

soz to any women out there who tells the truth, but ive had my share of lies.

[The1stTriSexual]

"soz to any women out there who tells the truth, but ive had my share of lies."

...you're 14 for godsakes.

And Drummer, maybe you should consult a dictionary for those terms.

[Newtolove]

hey the big question is what her answer is not how she gives it you have to figure that out. i know it's hard but if it's no then u'll have to move on like mesa did

[champloo]

Originally Posted by The1stTriSexual

"soz to any women out there who tells the truth, but ive had my share of lies."

...you're 14 for godsakes.

And Drummer, maybe you should consult a dictionary for those terms.

yes i know, but i had them.

ALOT of things can happen in a year of middle school, trust me.

[Julie8605]

I was just asked out in the cutest way! I am friends with this guy (call him Bob)... it's all different when you are friends first. Is she a friend or someone that you don't know very well?

Everyone had been talking all day about everyone else's love-lives. We stayed up and hung out looking at his computer while everyone else went downstairs and we got talking about his home (we're at college). Earlier that day another guy friend of mine had come to us for advice as to how to ask a girl he had a HUGE crush on out. Bob suggeted that he approach it from the "casual dating" angle even though he was obviously crazy about her. That way she wouldn't be scared off by his enthusiasm. So when we were alone Bob turned over and wanted to know if I wanted to go on a "casual date" this weekend. I almost died... I said yes.


So if she's a friend then dont worry about it. 'Bob' took the plunge and even if I had said no, I am sure that we'd still be good friends. Just smile and keep it casual! Let everyone know how it goes!!

~Julie

[champloo]

good luck dude.

i need to take notes myself

[pozzolane]

Just do it. Thats the advice you need.

elusive = vague, subtle etc... Its meant that the "reaction" from the girl in his case wasn't in any one direction or another. He couldn't tell if she meant yes or no.

just like on starsky and hutch "DO IT!...seriously...do it!"