How to deal with a girl who teases?

[pokerfan3]

Ok so there is this new girl i met. She's a great girl, great personality we got alot in common. However, she is a total tease (or flirt i guess is a nicer description) she likes to make sexually based jokes alot and talk racey whenever we are talking online on AIM. Now I definately played it passivley, I made sure not to seem i was nterested because i tend to think that's what girls like that want, they want the attention. Whenever she says she likes to have me as a friend i try to spin it a bit and say you know i don't really want to be friends with someone i'm attracted to, or when she tries to fish for compliments i shoot her down by telling her straight up to stop fishing. There was another time where i was in her room and we were watching a movie and she invited me to come lay next to her but i turned it down saying i don't snuggle with my "friends". As of right now i feel like im playing a waiting game, she said before that it's possible we could date for she knows that i'm attracted to her but that she's still shaken from her break up (now whether or not that's true is up for debate). So what i have been doing is i don't IM her first anymore, i feel if she would want to talk to me she will. In the end i guess my question is, should i still keep playing the game passive like this and make her try and chase me or is there another stratagey i should be playing at this point.

Any advice is appreciated.

[moose_hd]

You don't make it clear as to whether or not you actually do want to be with her, so I am assuming that is what you're trying for.

When it comes to this kind of gal, the consensus among many of my friends is that it's best to fight fire with fire: Tease her back! If she's getting sexual in her testing/flirting, make fun of her for it! This will let her know she's special and in the end she'll feel like she's met a challenge, which will make her even more interested in you.

Of course you're going to have to make a move sooner or later, so I guess this just sets you up for a greater chance of it being successful.

[batman527]

I'm going to venture a guess that you're not super interested in a deep relationship with this girl. If that's the case, play the teasing game. I wouldn't push it to far though, or she's going to start to think that you're actually not attracted to her.

If you're into her, and you do want a deeper relationship with her, I'd start acting like it. If you've already played the waiting game, it's time to start acting like the man that she wants to be with. Just my 2 cents.

[pokerfan3]

I am interested in her but everyone tells me that if you show interest in a girl, she won't want you.

[batman527]

There's some validity to that, however, it's not a rule that's etched in stone somewhere. If you're interested in her, do something nice for her, something sweet. I don't mean that you should go drool on her and shower her with "I love you"'s and whatnot, just say "hey, I'm into you". That's all. See where it goes. Most girls LOVE to be romanced.