please help

[adviseme]

I was dating the love of my life for almost a year & a month ago we broke up,or she did. We have told each other on several occasions that we are soulmates. She has said that she has never loved anyone this much in her life. I haven't either. She left saying that she didn't feel good about it anymore & she was neglecting her son. I know she still loves me but I can't get her to talk to me. A week after we broke up I said some awful things about her & she said she wouldn't come back to me in a million years. I have since apologized. her birthday was last week & I sent her some flowers. She emailed me saying thank you & how thoughtful it was for me to think of her. Here's my dilemma. I want her back so bad I would do anything to get her back. What can I do to bring the spark back into her heart. I know its there I just need some tips to winning her back. I hope a compassionate soul is on here to help me. I haven't & won't give up on our relationship even though she seems to have. If I knew the right thing to say or the right thing to do to win her back, I would do it in a heartbeat. She is so worth it. We had the best relationship of our lives!! How do I make her realize that it could be like that again? Please help

[dancingdoc2]

> A week after we broke up I said some awful things about her & she said she wouldn't come back to me in a million years.

To whom did you say these things? Your statement indicates you talked about her to someone else and she found out. This was not good for as mother used to say "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all."

She may very well have given you the truth about her child needing attention, however, unless it is something very special, those plans would normally include you, so that you are not included indicates she is having second thoughts about some aspect of the relationship. If so, you can ask what the problem is; although it has been my experience that when a woman pulls the plug, the plug stays pulled. All you can do is be available should she change her mind. Don't bug her about it, let her contact you if it is her wish.