Age distance in a relationship

[IndianaEMTlady]

Just courious as to what others think. I was once with a 32yo, I was 21. He is a great guy and I act and look much older then 21. Anyways he had 2 kids and lived a little far away from me. With that he never planned on having kids again and we made better friends then a couple. He kept on making a big deal about the age thing thou, I didn't care and didn't care what others thought....
So now very recently a guy found me and we have been chatting, he is a cop, ff, paramedic. Which is great for me, i am a ff, emt, paramedic student. Anyways he is 33 and I am almost 22. The cool part with him, he has never been married, and does not have kids. He said he just doesnt want to find a girl and get married then have kids and there be a divorce he didnt want that for his family. He is very nice sweet respectful guy. But that is 11 year age difference, I am not sure what will happen between him and I but lets say we decide it is going to work out.
Do you think others will frown upon us because of the age or should I contuine with the who gives a crap, as long as we are happy! Which is my thinking. Espically since he has never been married and does not have kids. Anyways if this has been posted else where please feel free to redirect me. Thanks

[WallyLlama]

Go for it! An eleven year age gap is NOTHING. lol I'm quite sure there will be some folks who will frown on the age difference... and I'm not sure you should totally not give a crap. I think sometimes we tend to be a little "in your face" when we have a good thing going that others don't appreciate.

Don't ignore the age gap, it brings some realities with it... but half the fun is discovering them together and recognizing the things you share outweigh any differences.

There are some sites/forums that specialize in AGR (age gap relationships) and their challenges...

[champloo]

yes! that shouldnt matter! if you like the guy, why not?

i mean hey, hugh hefner has "girlfriends" that are in their early-mid 20's, and he is like 70 years old.

if you like this guy, the age difference doesnt matter. 11 years? pshhh, thats not much.

[meg155]

From experience, I can say-if you're both on the same level and the same page, it really doesn't matter.
I was 21 and dated a 34 year old. We got along great and brought out the best in each other. We had a ton of fun. He taught me a lot about stuff, and like you we worked in the same business. So he helped me with career choices, along with teaching my other stuff and I brought out the younger fun side of him he thought he'd lost.
As long as it feels good- I say just go with it.

[IndianaEMTlady]

Thanks, I happend to bring it up tonight with my mom... I mentioned to her my last relationship with a 32 yo and she agreed with me, this one is different, the other was divorced twice and has two kids, this guy has never been married and does not have kids, so... I felt better when she agreed. LOL right now he and I are just talking we will see what happens

[ShadesRuda]

If it works, that's all that matters.


There's about that many years between myself and my boyfriend and it really bothered us both in the beginning.
We both wanted the same thing and are at the same level of thinking which is very key.
Now we don't even think about it (once in a while it sparks a joke), and here we are, getting married