He's Just Not that into You

[Shakemeup]

Okay so I met this guy, who we'll call George, and he was into me at the beginning. He called me constantly and even bought me chocolate for Valentine's Day.

Now the calls have dried up..the gifts are gone..and all he seems to do is send me mixed messages. One minute he doesn't call or anything, the next he's giving me a hug. Mixed messages galore!

All we've done is hook-up (me giving him blow jobs). We haven't had actual intercourse.

Now he barely shows the interest that he initially had. I'm guessing that he's not that into me. Too bad, he's really cute.

[batman527]

Tell him to F*** off because he's an a****** and shouldn't be using you merely for a the casual bj whenever he feels like it. Seriously.

[Macaframalama]

sounds liek dudes a mac, and be playin the game lol. dont hate the player hate the game

[champloo]

i dont suggest that you do what batman up there suggests.

although, it does sound like he is in it for the occasional oral here and there.

i suggest nothing at the moment, because im not particularly skilled in this subject.
im just saying that what batman says is partially true, with the possibility of him using you for oral sex.

but he is wrong for suggesting for you to go and blow up at him for it, since he could be undergoing some things that do not allow him to be with you as much as he may hope.
yet again, i suggest that you wait for a more detailed answer from another senior before you take any innitiate action.

[Macaframalama]

sorry that wasnt very nice of me. It sounds like this young man has only the interest of a casual blowjob and sees it fit that he only concern himself with you when he wants one. My advice is to put your foot down, stop hookinh up with him and either talk to him about it, or ditch him.

[Macaframalama]

by talk with him in no way do I mean yelling or saying "u only use me for head!". I mean talk to him calmly and rationally like an adult and express your feelings to him

[batman527]

These two have solid points, I kind of have a quick temper when it comes to my fellow males treating women poorly. It makes us all look bad, and women shouldn't be treated like that, so I'm fine with guys like that getting chided. Anyway, sorry about being so bomb-shell on it. Good luck with everything.

[Shakemeup]

Yeah I agree with everything everyone said. I confronted him about the casual bj situation, and told him that I am too old for "hook-ups." I told him that since we aren't going anywhere serious, that we should just be friends. He seemed cool with that. So thank you everyone! I can always count on the board for good tips!

[Macaframalama]

np, best of luck in the future

[champloo]

yes, best of luck.

if the oral was good though, i bet he wants to be friends with benefits.