What is it that girls want?

[pokerfan3]

This is kind of a recurring question with me, actually recurring event i should say. I meet a girl. We have alot of things in common. We flirt back and fourth. It seems we enjoy each others company. Etc. So why is it in the end they just aren't interested in me. I am not an unattractive guy, in fact I think im pretty good looking. Yet it seems every time i think i'm hitting it off with a girl she doesn't want to date me or anything. It's always in the friend zone i go. Now keep in mind i don't like being told that mainly for the reason i DON'T want to be friends with someone i'm attracted to because it just makes things worse. So i try not to make myself be led on or anything which is good. In the end though i just want to know. What is it that makes guys attractive to girls. What is it that girls want from us? If its not the personality then what is it?

[pozzolane]

Confidence. You never left your age but I'm assuming you're young. Like maybe senior highschool? little older? All girls look for different things in a guy but the main one that rings through time and time again is:

Confidence. This doesn't mean *******. This means your comfortable with yourself and where you are.

Maybe try being more forward with a girl. When you meet one you're interested in and she tells you that she's only looking for a friend. Instead of going along with it, try rocking the boat a little. Say something like: "you seem really nice too but I'm not interested in being just friends". But when you say it, say it like as if you have a million other offers on the table. When girls know for sure you are available they suddenly are not.

Its simple human nature to want what you can't have. So try making yourself a little harder to obtain so to speak. Behave like they have to win you over as well.

[Macaframalama]

Obviously this is something all guys wonder, and there is no one right answer. Just be kind, be curtious, listen, and be yourself bro. If she doesnt dig you for that, then she doesnt deserve you anyways

[champloo]

yes..and since everbody is different, the same trick that got you with one girl might not get you with another.

[pozzolane]

I'd like to add there are no "tricks" to get a girl. You can't dupe someone into liking you over the long run. It's true that everygirl may like something different in you, but what I meant is that everyone likes to be around confidence. It can't be faked though. That's when you come off like a jerk. What I was trying to tell you is not to just take whatever you can get. If we behave as special as we are someone might find it easier to see. I'm telling you to be confident with who you are. Its easier to like someone who likes themself also.

[closet_monster]

Let me tell you this buddy. Sometimes You can be to nice. What do I mean by this? Well I have so many girl friends and I mean friends. I'm one of the girls, I'm told everything. When a girl meets that kind of guy, well girls like to know guys that they can talk to who arn't *******s so they see you and think why risk this potential awesome friend. Never fails for me. As I will be posting a please help me with this issue post soon.
Best of luck man

[champloo]

Originally Posted by pozzolane

I'd like to add there are no "tricks" to get a girl. You can't dupe someone into liking you over the long run. It's true that everygirl may like something different in you, but what I meant is that everyone likes to be around confidence. It can't be faked though. That's when you come off like a jerk. What I was trying to tell you is not to just take whatever you can get. If we behave as special as we are someone might find it easier to see. I'm telling you to be confident with who you are. Its easier to like someone who likes themself also.

what i meant, was acting kind and gentle to her might not be a preference to a girl who wants a more abrasive guy.


i mean, going up to some random chick in the middle of the street and telling her that you can see her a** and that you want a pieve of it may excite her, but you tell that to some other girl and she might punch you out for looking, and for saying what you said in public.


stuff like that

[Newtolove]

above all always be yourself.

[ua322]

Originally Posted by pozzolane

Confidence. You never left your age but I'm assuming you're young. Like maybe senior highschool? little older? All girls look for different things in a guy but the main one that rings through time and time again is:

Confidence. This doesn't mean *******. This means your comfortable with yourself and where you are.

Maybe try being more forward with a girl. When you meet one you're interested in and she tells you that she's only looking for a friend. Instead of going along with it, try rocking the boat a little. Say something like: "you seem really nice too but I'm not interested in being just friends". But when you say it, say it like as if you have a million other offers on the table. When girls know for sure you are available they suddenly are not.

Its simple human nature to want what you can't have. So try making yourself a little harder to obtain so to speak. Behave like they have to win you over as well.

This is solid information from pozzolane.

Make yourself be confident in all situations. Just do it. Girls are attracted to someone who seems to be a real "catch".