still confused.

[Jay Bee]

This is about the same girl from this post
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/dati...-confused.html

I've been in a LDR with this girl for 3 months. Things seemed a little odd once in awhile, and recently a guy on myspace sent me a few messages saying that she was married... that he would possibly do something to me, and mentioned a few things he knew about me. She says it's her ex from over 2 1/2 years ago, and he's crazy. She lives 3 hours away, and he lives in the same city as I do. I asked her if she cared what I told him and she said no, so I told him that we were together and it had nothing to do with him. He responded saying that I could have her because he was done with her, and said a few other things.

Last week I asked her if he still lived in this city and she said "maybe, I don't know, I don't talk to him" She won't tell me his last name (I want to get more info on the guy who's threatening me), she says 'he won't do anything' and asks why I want to know, but won't tell me. Anyway, about 2 weeks ago her and her cousins went to a club in a city in between our 2 cities. She told me that her cousins had gone to my city before going to the club, but she had to go later so she went straight to the club (why she didn't stop by to see me).

Well, one of her cousins put up some pics from the night they went, and my GF is in one of the pics with them taken at someone's house. Turns out it was the house of the guy who was sending me the messages! So she lied to me there, she lied to me about her not talking to him anymore, and is possibly lying about other things.. I asked her about it and she confessed that she was there, but she didn't want to go, her cousins did, they only stopped by for about 15 minutes, and that he didn't go to the club with them...

She apologized and promised that there was nothing else she was keeping from me, and that she hadn't lied about anything else. She said she didn't tell me because she knew I would be upset.. Well the guy left another comment on the pic (on her cousins page) saying how fun the weekend was (they were only there for 15 min?) then her cousin left a comment on the guy's friend/brother (not sure) saying how much fun she had dancing with him at the club... (they went with his brother but not him?)


I don't know, I was in her city for the 1st time last weekend and met her very nice older sister, and one of her other cousins, and they all said the same thing about the guy being crazy.

[WallyLlama]

I can understand why you are confused.

Here's a question: why weren't you invited to this night of clubbing, particularly since it took place an hour away?

I think if you start putting some demands on her (like the guy's last name) you'll discover you actually don't have much of a relationship with her. There are too many things that don't make sense, including her statement that she didn't tell you about the whole thing because you'd be too upset.

Here's another question, if the guy is crazy why did they go visit him?

I'm confused too.

[pozzolane]

I was once in a relationship thats very much like the one you are in. The girl always seemed to have excuses as to why she would suddenly flake out on a date. It always seemed like everything bad only happened to her on nights we were supposed to get together. Everything was just a game with her. She would litterally say things (anything to try to upset me) just to test what my reaction would be. Heres a thing to consider. Like Wally said, "start making demands", but realize you better damn well follow through with the consequences if she doesn't meet those demands. Otherwise it's still all part of her game. How do you win a game like this? It's easy. Just stop playing it.