New Relationship delimma...

[Sweetness12]

Hey, i am 16/f and i just got into a serious relationship.. we have been dating 3 weeks today, and I am thinking about having sex with him tonight, but i dont know if it is too soon... I really really like him. I'm nervou because i've only had sex with one person, and I wont know what to expect with a new person...

Can anyone please help me?

[rockerton]

Originally Posted by Sweetness12

I wont know what to expect with a new person...

thats partly the fun.

Originally Posted by Sweetness12

but i dont know if it is too soon...

if you dont know then it probably is too soon.

[wifey]

i say see how things go. don't go out tonight with an intention of sleeping with him but if one thing leads to another and you feel comfortable with it...then...
just make sure you are comfortable with it though!

[dancingdoc2]

> we have been dating 3 weeks today, and I am thinking about having sex with him tonight, but i dont know if it is too soon... I really really like him.

For what purpose will the sex be for?

> i am 16/f and i just got into a serious relationship

Three weeks is way too soon to determine whether or not a relationship is "serious". Intense, curious, in-like, infatuated, wanting to know more, are all part of the early phase of any relationship. If your wish is to have a serious relationship then you owe it to each other to slow say down and develop the relationship in other less sexual ways. If you simply want to satisfy an "itch" then I suppose you can let the boy see all and have his way with you. I really believe you are placing the cart before not one horse but the whole team.

> I'm nervou because i've only had sex with one person, and I wont know what to expect with a new person.

Nobody does, exactly. This is part of the fun of exploration and discovery. Your comment also states a very important fact that too many people worry needlessly about. That we all understand the basic mechanics of fingering a clitoris or stroking a penis is well and good, however, what must be understood is that each of us requires more. We all develop a rhythm, tempo, and pressures that I call the "fine art" that is specific and unique to each of us. It is the fine art that must be taught to each of our partners in turn. So, previous experience is not all that important when it comes to a new paring. It is fine to be nervous, although be nervous for the right reasons, not that you do not have a lot of experience or that he has more or less.

The more you know about each other, the more comfortable you are with each other, the more confident you are in yourself, the more trust you have in him and the burgenoning relationship, the easier and less nervous you will be with the unknown or unfamiliar aspects of romance.

For tonight, tomorrow, next week, and the next several weeks or months, put sex on the back burner and turn up the heat slowly in a knowing meaninful way, first and foremost.

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