Keeping the "Flame"

[ZJ_Cowboy]

So Ive been going out with my G/F for almost 8 months. We are both seniors in high school and it seems like our "Fire" is dead. Lot of my friends say its natural but it makes me fustrated. We both have very busy days wich leave very little time to be together. With her dance and my work hours we only get to see eachother a few hours a week. I dont want to break up because of this. And we both dont believe in "breaks". Is there something I can do to reingnite the fire?

[rockerton]

try more spontaneity

[dancingdoc2]

That, and keeping in contact by telephone. Keep the calls short and do not hang on to every breath for hours. Also, forget text messaging and IM, etc. The sound of each other's voice is more important than a thought in print.

[ZJ_Cowboy]

Thanks for the replys. It just seems that when we do get time to hang out is kinda dull and we get easly destracted. And we dont really do thoes "cute" small things other couples do. Like hold eachother, good night kiss, nothing. I dont know if im thinking to hard or what but somethings gotta give...

[WallyLlama]

The reality of relationships is that sometimes you have a bonfire and sometimes you have a candle. The key is that the "fire" never goes out.

One of the problems I see with our society is this incredibly high need for excitement and stimulation - as if we are someone addicted to excitement. Just because you don't spend much time together doesn't mean those brief moments are going to be bonfires.

On the other hand, it does sound like you need to make time for each other... even time to do the "cute" things you describe. It's hard to tell whether you are "bored" with each other or simply not putting enough effort into maintaining the relationship.

So the big question might be whether or not you are attracted to each other or the excitement.