Rose Colored Glasses

[pozzolane]

I just have a quick question here: an ex of mine (that I feel might still have feelings for me) told me that she usually "looks at me with rose colored glasses" when I asked her how she still feels about me. How would you guys interpret that?

[AptPupil]

ask her to elaberate. sounds like shes saying she likes you.

[WallyLlama]

and tends to always see you in a favorable way... the expression tends to mean somewhat intentionally looking for the best and ignoring the bad.

[constantlylearning]

Yes, I agree with Wally. In my opinion, she is saying that she only sees the best in you. In other words, her view is somewhat tainted because of her feelings for you. Kinda like she cannot see the forest for looking at the trees.

[Julie8605]

When I say that... it means that I only see what I want to. I look at a close guy friend of mine through "rose coloured glasses". He can be a real jerk sometimes, but I still love him to pieces! To me, it means that she knows that you guys are broken up. She might still have feelings for you, but she's fighting against it because while she does only see the "good" in you she has reached the point where she can recognize that it's not a wholesome perspective.

Unless you want to start something up again with her I'd drop it. Sounds like she's trying her best to get over and you might make it worse by being overly understanding. Don't fan the flames imho.

[constantlylearning]

Julie that is very astute. I think that this lady has a deep affection for him and although some "bad" may have transpired between them she only recalls the "good" and thus her opinion is just peachy. Be careful not to lead her on if your feelings are not of a similiar fashion. Women are wonderful and deserve to always be treated as such.

[WallyLlama]

Interesting: I sorta missed the "ex" part the first time through... and Julie may have nailed it. Wearing rose colored glasses doesn't make the negatives go away... so her question may be

can I stop only seeing his good points and realize we don't work together?

or

can he and I admit/face the problems and fix them?

How the question gets answered depends on how you feel and what you think. If you're not interested in her, leave it alone. If you are, ask her what she sees when she takes the glasses off.

[pozzolane]

Hey thanks for the replies guys. I just didn't really know what that expression meant. And yes I do still have feelings for her as well. Our break-up was last year bacause she moved away for a while and we didn't want to do a long distance relationship. We remained friends and still talked and what not. But about a little more than a month ago we hooked up and now we've been talking about a possible getting back together. I asked her how she still looks at me, and she replied "I usually look at you with rose colored glasses". I just was unsure what exactly that meant. I had an idea but not really a full understanding. When I asked her that question the responce I was looking for was something like "as a friend" or "I still see you as more than a friend" or something like that. So I posed the question above.