Trying to read a particular girl

[droopy28]

Hello board....this is my first post on here...but not the first time i have had difficulties trying to figure out girls....i have very little relationship experience...pretty much everyone tells me that it is b/c i am too shy...i guess they may be right, but what it amounts to is, i dont want to get shot down.

but the reason why i am posting here, is i would like to hear your take on my situation. Theres' this girl that i have known for probably about 3 months. But we see each other maybe twice a week at the most at a place where college students hang out. I feel that we have become pretty close, but i have not figured out how to try to take it to the next level. The reason why i have had a hard to reading her is b/c she is a pretty flirtasious girl. Usually i would stay away from this type of girl, but the thing is, she has shown me more.

At the start of this, i could tell she enjoyed being around me, she would invite me to certain things her and some friends would do and she has always looked excited when she saw me. But this didnt seem to go anywhere, and i dont wanna act on something thats not there. So i tested this, I purposely avoided seeing her for about 2 weeks. And it seemed to pay off... She approached me with a huge hug, told me she missed me and all that kinda stuff. and throughout the time we were around each other, she often made contact w/ me. At one point we were standing and she started massaging my ear lobe. ???? never had that done. she continued to do certain things like this....though not that strange^^ and later she started rubbing my arm. Ok, i know most would say, yes, this is a sign of showing interest w/ all this physical contact. But i'm not completly convinced and i wanna make sure i approach this situation the correct way.

But, what is your opinions, does this sound like she's into me?? She seems to treat me a little different and trust me, if i thought i was completly waisting my time thinking about this, i woulda forgot about it long ago, but something is telling me to go for it.....What should i do???....What is some good ice breakers to maybe see how she feels???....Also, I am good friends w/ one of her friends and i have been tempted to ask her certain things...but i feel that is not appropriate...i really just dont know what to do.....thanks for any advice

[rockerton]

heres an idea... instead of looking to the anomynity of the almighty www for answers, ask her. youll never get an answer after she moves on. if she isnt interested, then just let it go. its her choice as well as yours, and if she chooses no then that opens you up to other ladies. there are always other ladies.

just talk to her. force the issue. ask her flat out if she is interested in you.

[droopy28]

thanks for the advice, but its really hard for me to do something like this and i'd rather know for sure if its a sure thing or not.....b/c if its not it could get really awkward

[wifey]

Originally Posted by droopy28

thanks for the advice, but its really hard for me to do something like this and i'd rather know for sure if its a sure thing or not.....b/c if its not it could get really awkward

i agree with the previous post...ask her, yeah things might get awkward for a while but you'd be able to move on - together or not is a different issue. ask yourself how you'd feel if months go by she gets a new man and then tells you that at one point she fancied you... i had that happen to me once, i mean i told a friend of mine that i did feel something towards him once, - he was really upset about never seeing my signals...so it's best to be sure then being in the "what if..." state...

[droopy28]

trust me, i've thought of the 'what ifs' but i dont know if im ready quite yet.....But, by going off what i posted, do you think those are good signs she may be interested w/ all the physical contact?

[rockerton]

Originally Posted by droopy28

trust me, i've thought of the 'what ifs' but i dont know if im ready quite yet.....But, by going off what i posted, do you think those are good signs she may be interested w/ all the physical contact?

excexxive physical and eye contact are definite signs of interest.

[droopy28]

aight....thanks, thats what i've heard....but most of the time i hear things like this its either from a good friend of mine or from some expert who probably doesnt have any trouble in the dating world

[constantlylearning]

Life is fleeting so be bold. Say what you feel and hopefully things will go your way. If not, at least you tried and didn't have to wonder aimlessly.

[dancingdoc2]

There is a saying that goes something like, "take the bull by the horns, and...."

Well, it seems she has been doing this yet the "bull" shows an unwillingness to go or to take the lead once underway. The metaphor, stop wondering, stop what ifing, and take the lead--ask her out on a date and if all goes well, make plans to invite her again and either make plans then or let her know you will be calling with something in mind.

[finewine]

Well, I would for one, be wary..If she is flirty you may be nothing more than a conquest for her vanity.

I would have more respect for yourself and make sure there is more to it than just bedding the shy boy.

Of course if all you want is just to have sex with her and nothing more....