can someone give me some direction plz...

[macca1012]

hey can some one tell me about last post

[Vinny]

in my personal experiance its never a easy subject to bring up. the way i find it easy is to just slip it into a convosation with her when the 2 of you are on your own. other than that mate i don't knw what other advice to give. hope this helps

[Lass]

I agree. Just talk with her about it.

[dancingdoc2]

> I want to go further with our relationship...she always goes along with and ads to it but ive never been game to feel her genitals...while we have been making out. I really wanna talk to her about our sexual status but I don’t know how to start the conversation.

Talking about this subject in general is best done at a time when the two of you are not planning on making out. Pick a time when you are relaxed and will not be disturbed.

The situation you describe does not necessarily need to be discussed. The reason is that in all the making out the two of you do, you have yet to reach any boundary she has. The art of making out operates on "Implied Consent", meaning that a woman gives a man consent (implied rather than spoken) to make out up to the point where she has established a limit that she is not yet ready to go beyond. Within this range, you are free to kiss and caress.

You have two options: first, you can ask what her limit is; second, you can continue to make out and push the envelope until she stops you. It is at this point that you know how far you can go. Feel free to make out up to this point. She has granted consent without spelling it out.

So, how do you know if she has extended the previous limit to some new point or activity? Easy. You make out until you reach the old limit and if she does not stop you, then press on and explore further and at some point when she stops you, you learn what her new boundary is and not to try to go beyond until she gains more confidence, trust, and is comfortable with this new level of intimacy.

> she always goes along with and ads to it but ive never been game to feel her genitals

Because she goes along with and adds to what you are doing, then the two of you are operating well within her comfort range. You have yet to determine what your girlfriend's limit is. Implied consent says that you are welcome to explore further and push the envelope until she says that that is far enough or pushes your hand away, etc. Now, you know what her boundaries are and can kiss and make out freely within this range.

Sometime in the future when you reach this limit and try to go beyond you will find that she no longer stops your progress. What's happened is that she has extended her boundary based upon a new level of comfort and security. Just continue to make out trying new things until she stops you. It is at this point that you learn what the new boundary is. And, so it goes.

[macca1012]

thank you heaps i just got this at work