People Help me I Need Her.....

[joshuaroto]

Okay for the past 3 years i have dedicated my life around one woman im only 23 and the 3 years were great considering i gave up my friends and relaxed on the bar seen now.... now that shes back to collage were drifting and i find myself alone now we no longer talk as much due to homework, work and now that time we could have together shes going out to the bars with her girlfriends i just dont know what to do anymore is she telling me to shoo off or what i dont know what to do now i find myself neeed her more then ever u guys know the feeling how do i get her back???????????


help........

[WallyLlama]

If she's going to bars during the rare time you could be together... well, I'm afraid you may have a lost cause.

There's a lesson in this. When you give up everything for some one and dedicate your life to them... and they end up leaving you for the bar scene you gave up...

Here's the thing -- what isn't clear from your post is what you've done. Have you told her how you feel?

If she's not interested in how you feel, why try to get her back?

[Liriel620]

One of the biggest mistakes you can make in a relationship is to dedicate your every waking minute to the other person. That kind of dependancy is unhealthy and will eventually lead to burn out. I've learned, that building a great life is half the fun in a relationship because it's something to share with your love.

Have you talked to her about the time she's spending at the bars? Open up the lines of communication and find out where the problem is. Then you can worry about fixing it. (:

[joshuaroto]

i havent done too much and dont know what to do in this senario im too confused when we talked about it i forget how it came up but i understand why shes doing this see our 1st year of going out we use to always go to the bars and we stoped because she diched her friends cause they always talked ****. just befor collage i always asked her to come out to the bar but she never wanted to......

so now that shes back to collage shes making new friends so thats why shes going out.

i told her good im glade ur makeing friends again go have fun u need a ride home call me

i just dont understand why she does ent ask me to join.

should i tell here how i feel.....

or wait for her to tell me