How to explain your feelings?

[john18]

Im having problems explaining to my girlfriend my feeling. can someone help me out?

[Jm33]

well what is your feeling exactly? We can help you bettter if you elaborate.

[dancingdoc2]

I agree. Please elaborate.

Once you tell us, my recommendation is to tell her what you just wrote on the forum.

Girls chit chat about all manner of things from an early age and have the art of talking and communicating down by the time boys come along. Not so for us guys. We often are men of few words so just chatting and expressing opinions and feelings and beliefs are foreign to us and have to be learned.

With this in mind, the way you learn is by practicing. I teach Ballroom dancing and the way each of us becomes a better more proficient dancer is to practice and to make flubs along the way. Not to try, not to practice, is to leave a person wanting. So, understand that you, like the rest of us, have a "fragile male ego that doesn't want to be bruised and just toss caution to the wind and begin talking to her.

Practice what you want to say before hand so that your delivery will be more natural, and, so that you won't leave anything out. Another thing to do is to preface what you are about to say by admitting to her that you are nervous and that you have a difficult time putting thoughts into words. This should set both of you more at ease. (It is a trick teachers of public speaking teach their students.)

Talking is different than the act of communicating which this is an essential part, and all of us guys have to develop this skill sooner or later. It may be embarrassing or a bit rough around the edges for a time or two, yet the more you talk and confide, the easier it will become.

Good luck. Now, please tell us what you want to tell her.

[john18]

the thing is i dont really know what to say. i like her loads but cant find my feeling for her.