help with my girlfriend

[drummer469]

well here is the whole story. so me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 3 months now. we met from a mutal friend about 4 monts ago. now we both go to diffrent schools and only see each other like once a week because were both 15 and dont have our liscences yet so its hard to get rides. but she has alot of guy friends and she hangs out with them alot. like last night i was at my friends house and called her at like 1 and she was up watching tv. but later i talked to her ex because he sometimes instant messages me about her and he is always trying to get me to break up with her because he also really likes her. well anyways after we hung up the phone she went over to her neighbors and her ex was there because he is friends with her neighbor. now i really dont think she would cheat on me and he said they diddent do anything but she diddent even tell me she went over there and she even slept over. now sometimes she gets drunk too with these same kids too and she doesent invite me that much. but when were together shes really into me and tells me she loves me. and she texted me today that she doesent like hanging out with any guys except me so now im pretty confused. soo any help with what i should do would be appreciated. thanks. sorry its so long

[dancingdoc2]

Date lots of different people and do not enter into an exclusive relationship for at least another four or five years.

Kids your age are in a state of flux, meaning you are trying to find an identity, learn social skills, break away from parents, etc. et cetera, etc. More over at your age while your bodies may be mature, your mental maturity and life experiences are still expanding and maturing.

To put so much time and attention into one person and his/her behaviors, now, is sometimes pointless because the independent streak in kids will resist change.

People have and maintain friendships. That her former boyfriend was around is not necessarily telling. What she seems to want as well as likes and dislikes can change daily based upon exposure to new ideas as well as information about whatever might be important to her at the moment. It all goes back to finding herself and learning to define herself as an individual. Expect that for the next few years all this will be changing as she grows as a person and samples different experiences. So, what I'm suggesting is to not put too much of your emotions into a relationship with someone for a few more years. Both of you as well as every other kid in your age range is constantly changing. Choose your friends wisely. I would not want my child hanging around with a teen who drinks or uses drugs. The person may have nice qualities otherwise, yet when under the influence they are reliable or to be trusted. They are unable at this age to understand the consequences of their actions.

Date and date many people and do not become serious about any one person for a few more years. For right now you need to learn about others and to see what humanity has to offer so that when the time comes to make a choice about Ms Right, you will have better insight into the human psyche and character. By not becoming serious about someone you will avoid all the emotions and the pain involved with relationships, breakups, and dealing with individuals and their changing whims.