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[no_socks_in_bed]

Ok, hi everyone, new to this... but i joined because i need help.
so i've been dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now and we are very serious, although it is very hard on us because i am a sophomore in college and he's an electrician 45 minutes away from my school.

so heres a couple questions or statements i guess for someone to help me understand....

-we are the happiest couple in the world together, we like to say we're "retarded for each other"... but thats only when we've been together everyday or seen each other everyday and/or are in person... when i am at school however, we argue non-stop, like screaming contests in a non-fun way.... i swear i could never picture my life without him, he is my soul mate... we just don't work well when far away from each other. Anyone have any help with that?

next...
-so, as i said, we've been dating for 2 1/2 years and are serious, but lately, i just don't feel in the mood for sex, and i feel like i only get into with him because he wants it... and i want him to be happy. once going i'm happy and everything and enjoying it, but i just cant work myself up to it and i told him how i feel and he just got really frusterated and doesn't know what to do. we talked and he got upset that he doesn't know what to do and that he feels he doesn't know how to make me happy and be good enough... i hate being the bad guy so i said to him no no, don't worry about it... and we haven't talked about it since.... help me, what can we do... i feel our sex life becoming boring.

i greatly appreciate feed back!

[WallyLlama]

I'll bet you got a lot of "over-lapping" going on... a couple of thoughts...

Forty-five minutes isn't a lot, and yet it can be enormous because it involves two different lives, really. You really are living in an LDR (long distance relationship) and they are tough! (Evidence the arguing!)

This will sound like oversimplification, but I'd bet that if you can "improve" that part of your relationship the rest will start to fall into place. Try spending some of your "together" time talking about your "not together" time... You might also look at how you can be "together" when you're not, that's part of the challenge of an LDR. Don't compartmentalize your lives, get things more integrated.

It may not be that your sex life is boring, it may be taking too long to "switch gears" from apart to together. As you say, once you get going...

[no_socks_in_bed]

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Quote[/b] (WallyLlama @ Jan. 06 2006,06:43)]I'll bet you got a lot of &quot;over-lapping&quot; going on... a couple of thoughts...

Forty-five minutes isn't a lot, and yet it can be enormous because it involves two different lives, really. You really are living in an LDR (long distance relationship) and they are tough! (Evidence the arguing!)

This will sound like oversimplification, but I'd bet that if you can &quot;improve&quot; that part of your relationship the rest will start to fall into place. Try spending some of your &quot;together&quot; time talking about your &quot;not together&quot; time... You might also look at how you can be &quot;together&quot; when you're not, that's part of the challenge of an LDR. Don't compartmentalize your lives, get things more integrated.

It may not be that your sex life is boring, it may be taking too long to &quot;switch gears&quot; from apart to together. As you say, once you get going...

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thanks for the input and i guess that makes sense how would you say we should talk about being apart... and coming together when apart thats what i can think of how to do