is she too young?

[louie540]

it not a question if i shuld break up with her. im just tryin to get your opinion.

well you see im 15.
my girlfriend is 13.

the age doesnt really bother me it just that ppl are botherin me with their opinions like "omg a 13 yr. old?" she can pass as 17 btw

i think she real beautiful but ppl r always givin me shit bout her age.

wat do u think?

[vagabondprince]

just a personal opinion, while you're still that young, sticking with someone right at your own age is the best idea. but that's only my opinion

[louie540]

ok i am starting to get more views but less replies...

[WallyLlama]

Two years is not a lot... but there are realities, including the one that the early teens are times of huge change and huge differences. A couple of important points:

Be prepared to let her be 13, don't expect her to be 15. You're not engaged, right? Seriously, keep it light, "date" in the way that makes sense to both of you (and your parents).

Work on some snappy comebacks for the people who give you crap. "We're the perfect age for each other!" or "She's actually 17, but we're not telling..." or "That's okay, you don't have to date her - don't want you to - so you don't have to worry about it."

If you don't want to be snappy, thank these people for their concern and say something like this, "Thank you and you're right, she is young, but we both know that and we know what we are doing." You could also ask them to explain exactly why they are concerned...

The point is that you really don't have to defend your choice and decision in the end, as long as you and she are happy and content with what you are doing and not hurting anybody else.

It's great that you are interested in what other people think, but don't let people vote on what you should do!

[AndreBone]

Personally, I think at that age, the age difference does matter but two years isn't THAT different. When I was 22 I started seeing my ex-girl when she was just 18. We went out for 5 years strong, and though we did end things, we still keep in touch and are very good friends.

[dancingdoc2]

> the age doesnt really bother me it just that ppl are botherin me with their opinions like "omg a 13 yr. old?" she can pass as 17 btw

There are several aspects to this scenario that are important.
First, kids your age are still developing physically and mentally, and,
Second, do not always know what they don't know.
Third, the brain's frontal cortex is the last part of us to develop and finally does so about the age of 21. It is this part of the brain that is responsible for being able to determine the consequences of our actions.

Girls generally mature sooner or earlier than boys so at 13 she might seem to be your equal on some level; however, at 13 she is also not nearly as far along as you at 15. The teen years are years of rapid growth and development, it sometimes seems like a cuel twist of fate by Mother Nature that we are ready to procreate far sooner than our mental and emotional development can handle. The hormones drive us illogically and because that spot in the brain is far from being ready to guide us, we often do stupid things not realizing them at the time.

Socialogically, girls at 13 should be hanging with other girls, and the same for boys. At 15 or 16 the genders begin to commingle, and at ~18+ people begin to be separate into couples while at the same time continuing relationships with a circle of other people.

I do not see anything wrong with the two of you being just friends. It is not wise to be dating exclusively. In fact, it is not wise for either of you to date, one on one; more importantly, for her at least, "dates" should be group activities for awhile. You should be dating lots of girls, none exclusively. Dating as an institution is important because it teaches us social skills, and, it provides a format for getting to know lots of different people in order to see what humanity has to offer so that when the time does come when we are ready to choose Ms or Mr. Right, we have a lot of background knowledge upon which to make an informed decision. In other words, by dating a lot of people, we have the ability to observe the characters, quirks, motivations, goals, morals, etc., and to boil all these down into a set of likes and dislikes to use when finally narrowing the field to two and then one particular individual.

> she can pass as 17 btw...i think she real beautiful

No doubt she is attractive, however, it is important to let her develop mentally, emotionally, and psychologically. In the meantime, go out with girls your own age, have a good time, and work on your own maturity as a result of your many interactions with people your own age.

[Brandye]

Read the Chick Chat thread on "AM I Ready?" AAt 13, she is not.

[louie540]

i cant give up on her now...

we have been goin out for a while now...

thnx for everyones advice btw but i have to disagree with the "seeing ppl my age" part.

it wuld just crush her if i broke up with her...

same if she broke up with me...


idk, but i will just use the snap back comments. anyway one of my friends who has been making fun of me for going out with a 13 yr. is actually hiting on tryin to hook up w/one now.

but yeah there nothing i can/want to do with our relationship that will seperate us...i dont think any of that will happen soon.

[Guy]

a guy knows when a girl is right for him...if you "know" she is the one than you wouldn't really give a **** about what others have to say.