asking out...

[Alex]

ok. ive been bad asking peopple out, because i worry a lot.
ex. if i ask them out, it will riun our friendship if they say no.

but anywho. is it ok to ask someone you REALY like online, like on AIM?

and what are some good ways to bring it up, like get up to the point of asking.
my 1st gf i asked out online, was by mistake, sorta. i liked her a lot, and my friend was over and i typed "do you want to go out?" and was about to deleat it and my friend hit enter. well we ended up going out for almost 11 months.

and the only reason i dont want to ask her out is because we are REALY tight friends. im realy like the only person she can trust, she says.
and if you happen to break up, is it ok to still be friends, but not boyfriend/girlfriend?

-thanks

[vagabondprince]

Out of curiosity, how old are you? you sound kind of like me from my high school time.

General opinion says it's a bad idea to ask someone out online. Using any source so you're not directly asking the person out in person is seen as being wussy by a lot of people i used to ask the opinions of. I expect AIM's probably your main form of communication with this girl you want to ask out, so it'd be easier on there rather than anywhere else. I'd personally say it's not the best way to ask a girl out, but i have done it before with success. Rather than simply asking her out, my personal move might be to talk to her about the matter in almost hypothetical terms. Like ask her if she's ever thought about what it'd be like if you two were dating. In the case of a positive response to that, i might suggest going out on a date then. But considering you're best friends it seems, without knowing if she's interested in being more than friends, just asking could throw the awkward wrench in the workings of your existing relationship. I hope that makes sense, the best of luck to you.

I want to comment on that last question, but i have to get out of here, so i'll come back to it later.

[starrystarrygirl]

i wouldn't ask her out on the internet, it's so impersonal, and like vagabond said, it's the wussy way. just spend a day with her or something, just the two of you and ask her then.

"and if you happen to break up, is it ok to still be friends, but not boyfriend/girlfriend?"
that part all depends on the two of you. i know if my boyfriend and i were to break up, it would be too hard to just stay friends, because i feel so much for him. on the other hand, some of my ex's and i stayed friends for a short while, then we just grew apart, and one i still talk to off and on. so that part is completely up to ya'll.

[Alex]

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Quote[/b] (vagabondprince @ Jan. 04 2006,19:36)]Out of curiosity, how old are you? you sound kind of like me from my high school time.

General opinion says it's a bad idea to ask someone out online. Using any source so you're not directly asking the person out in person is seen as being wussy by a lot of people i used to ask the opinions of. I expect AIM's probably your main form of communication with this girl you want to ask out, so it'd be easier on there rather than anywhere else. I'd personally say it's not the best way to ask a girl out, but i have done it before with success. Rather than simply asking her out, my personal move might be to talk to her about the matter in almost hypothetical terms. Like ask her if she's ever thought about what it'd be like if you two were dating. In the case of a positive response to that, i might suggest going out on a date then. But considering you're best friends it seems, without knowing if she's interested in being more than friends, just asking could throw the awkward wrench in the workings of your existing relationship. I hope that makes sense, the best of luck to you.

I want to comment on that last question, but i have to get out of here, so i'll come back to it later.

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15 turning 16 in sept.
i talk to her on AIM and by phone, we are in different schools now, since its high school.
but ive been like wanting to go out with her since 6th...ya, long time. but shes had lots of relationships and stuff.
ya im talking to her on AIm rite now, and she asked me if i like her more then just friends, and i said yes. and its sortof awkward talking to her rite at the momment, because i know she likes me, and i'm realy her &quot;only&quot; friend, because the others backstabed her, and shes probly thinking about it.
but ya. shes probly worried, that if we break up, if we go out, she'll have noone, which isn't true.
bed time for me, dad yelling at me

[dancingdoc2]

At your age relationships come and relationships go. It is the nature of learning to become social creatures and to interact with people on a deeper level than just friendship. If you are friends and have known each other for a few years and she likes you, then simply pick some activity you think she would enjoy doing with you and ask her. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If she turns you down, she turns you down. The trick is to learn if it is because of a prior committment or that maybe she doesn't like the activity you proposed.

Counter the first by offering two dates, say Friday or Saturday. Counter the second by asking her if she would like this activity or that. Choose something like a movie, first, and have two in mind if there are a couple of good ones playing at the same time.

After the movie, plan on having a snack at a local cafe. If she has a cerfew, and you are up against the clock, see that she is in the door five minutes priior to. In so doing you will be demonstrating responsibility to her and in particular her parents.

Call her up and ask her out. Better yet, plan to meet somewhere just to chit-chat and then ask her out, face to face.

[Alex]

she does want to hang out sometime. but isn't avalible this wekend, becuase of family stuff....i will have to ponder this...lol