WHEN IS CHEATING..CHEATING?

[uncreativename]

*how much flirting is too much? what's out of bounds?? is it only when you become involved with them physically that it's not right?...as in cheating? IS CHEATING PURELY PHYSICAL OR IS IT EMOTIONAL?*


uncreativename

[georgie3]

In my opinion...if you are questioning it, then something's wrong, it's going too far.

[starrystarrygirl]

i have to agree with georgie. another way to tell is if you find yourself thinking about him, even if it's just as friend terms. that's from personal experience. thankfully i learned a lesson, but while i was learning, i found that my boyfriend wasn't happy at all that someone else was doing/saying things to me and i didn't do anything to stop it.

[uncreativename]

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Quote[/b] (starrystarrygirl @ Jan. 04 2006,20:08)]i have to agree with georgie. *another way to tell is if you find yourself thinking about him, even if it's just as friend terms. *that's from personal experience. *thankfully i learned a lesson, but while i was learning, i found that my boyfriend wasn't happy at all that someone else was doing/saying things to me and i didn't do anything to stop it.

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i see so ur saying cheating doesn't have to be physical...?
i kinda get what you're saying..i mean i do think about him a bit - in a friend sense - like i enjoy his company. i wouldn't ever consider gettin with him or anything and i know the boundaries...but should i tell him to back off or is it just talk and nothing to worry about. he's not being rude or nething..

[thetease13]

Cheating is what you define it as. It, like virginity, depends on you yourself define it as. Some people consider a huge emotional bond with someone other than their spouse/partner to be cheating, while I don't. Cheating is a physical thing to me. I don't expect my partner to connect with me on every level. That's ridiculous. That's why we all have different friends because we all connect with them in different ways.
So, that being said, I don't think flirting is cheating. Flirting is generally a way to make yourself feel better about yourself in some way and/or to fill something you're not getting elsewhere.
There are a lot of married men that flirt with me. They're not doing anything other than flirting and I don't see any harm in that. If a little flirt can bring a smile to their face, then so be it. If they like me in other ways or find me attractive, then so be it. That doesn't mean I'm going to &quot;cross that line&quot;.

[moose_hd]

It really depends on your own comfortable levels. Me, I would hold any SO to a &quot;look but don't touch&quot; standard, with anything more being considered cheating.

The last gf flirted with practically anyone, and it didn't bother me at all.

[bob44044]

it's cheating

[stormtrooperdude]

I agree that it is what you make it to be... but equally as important it is what your partner thinks is to far.

Just because you don't see anything wrong with what you are doing, does not mean your boyfriend will not care.

Also try to think of it the other way around. What if you boyfriend was flirting with some hot blonde. (even if this doesn't bother you it still doesn't mean it won't bother him).

[ShadowLynnParker]

So, he flirts and thats ok. Nothing wrong with flirting. Flirting is using words to make inuendo's and sexual seggestions without touching. As long as you don't touch you are ok. You flirt back which is ok also. There is not one thing wrong with what you two are doing. Now, lets say he starts flirting with you one night. You are flirting back once again and still nothing wrong wiith it but now you are used to it and it has become rutine, the norm. Girl, you are moving towards the next level. Now his flirting becomes poking and tickling. You laugh and poke back. Now, you think as long as there is no sexual activity involved you are safe. It only takes a moment, a split second for your mind to skip a beat and low and behold you find yourselves kissing. Well, its only a kiss and he is a good kisser, I wonder what else he does good. By now your boyfriend is your friend and the flirting guy is more then a friend. You find yourself more and more spending time with this attention grabber and you like all the attention you get from him. You date one night, just to see if it would be good. Now what was your question again? Is flirting harmless?????? I think you know the answer already.

[Lass]

Flirting is flirting. I knew before I started dating my guy of 7 months that he was the flirty type and I've learned since then that I am too. I don't flirt with everyone but like there's this one guy friend of mine who I've known for 4 years who, yeah, asked me out 3 times and still flirst with me A LOT. My boyfriend knows about it (we're in a LDR) and he gets jelouse but I don't know...I feel threatened by him being so close to some girl friends.

But if you're like me, you only flirt with certain people...like my guy friend. I've known him for so long and I've acted a certain way around him that it just comes naturally...and it does come off as me flirting with him....and my guy understands that. Just as I understand what he sometimes does with girls doesn't look 'innocent.'

It's all how you view things.