Co-worker AND has BF

[AndreBone]

Hello everyone,

Here's the deal; I sit next to this girl at work and through the past year we've developed a pretty cool friendship. As is the case in many of these situations, my feelings have grown beyond friendship. Two problems though:

1. She's a co-worker
2 (and this is the real kicker). She has a boyfriend.

Here's my question: After months of flirtatious behavior (both of us are culprits), do I ask her out?

Her current relationship is going "ok" for her but she confides in me when things get rocky. I could just keep doing what I'm doing; flirting and thinking about her OR take a risk, ask her out, and see what her reaction is. I'm a little worried about the work thing though. If she does say no she may feel uncomfortable at work; we sit right next to each other.

I can't take her flirtatious behavior towards me any longer. She's killin' me.

Any advice?

Thanks!

--Andre

[StormyXNights]

Well it is a risky situation but you only live once though. I say ask her out on a coffee date or something or on a lunch break.. But keep it ina way kind of profesionall... that way your not completly asking her out and disrespecting the fact that she has a boyfriend.. But you are still getting somemore one on one time with her to get to know her better.. Who knows this may progress... and she may fall for you as well.. Take things slow.. and Remember she does have a boyfriend..

[Luvs2plzU]

YIKES!!...don't be "dipping" the pen in company ink !!...

[AndreBone]

StormyX and Luvs,

Good advice from both of you. Have to say that I like StormyX's idea better though (ha ha).

Going to work sure is tough these days. I'll let y'all know how it turns out.

Thanks for the replies!

[AndreBone]

So get this, I had to stay a little late at work tonight and this co-worker of mine says, "Bone, is there anything I can do to help you? I feel bad that you have to stay." I replied, "No, it's no big deal, I know what I have to do, I just have to get it done. Thanks though." She was working a later shift so she was staying anyway.

Our job involves talking on phones all day. A few minutes later she holds up a note to show me as she was on a call and it read:

"I (heart) Bone."

I can't take this. I told her to stop doing stuff like that and she shrugged it off saying that I shouldn't take things out of context.

God! Girls drive me nuts.

[StormyXNights]

Haha seems like this co-worker has the hotts for you as welll. Or she is just toying with your emotions.. or thinks it funny. But we'll take it as shes got the hotts for you as well.
What are you waiting for ask her for coffee... or out on a lunch date. Then while your out.. Away from work.. Get to know her better. Throw her some hints..
I think that I'd be pretty good with relationships and problems and how to get things started.. so if you need more ideas or help feel free to e-mail me anytime. I'd love to help.
PrincessXJazmin@yahoo.com