Im in a catch-22

[pokerfan3]

Ok guys im back again with my stupid women troubles, so there is this girl i like but im afraid to ask her out because im not sure if she likes me but i guess i can't find out if he likes me unless i DO ask her out. Does anyone have any advice to break this stupid circle im in.

[moose_hd]

Ask her and get it over with. Women generally like it when you have the confidence to come and put yourself on the line like that. The fact that you DO have the confidence usually makes you more attractive in their eyes.

Believe me, I have kicked myself for months or even years in some cases because I kept coming up with stupid reasons to NOT ask her out. The worst is when you find out she's going out with someone else and you never even gave it a shot. It's better to just do it and have it resolve one way or another.

[dancingdoc2]

Yes, asking her out is one way to determine if she likes you; however, there are other ways. For example: how does she interact with you during casual contacts or in your circle of friends? Do you talk during the day and if so does she seem content to stay and chat or is she chompin' at the bit to move along? The same can be said for phone calls.

If she is content to spend time talking to you or being in your company during the daily contacts then she likes you. Ask her out and give her the options of two days, and, two activities. Be prepared for an initial turn down if she is already booked for one of those days/evenings. If so, just ask and plan for an alternative a few days/week later.

[AndreBone]

I agree with moose_hd, I have kicked myself many a times when I didn't have the balls to either ask a girl out or just go up and talk. I have NEVER regretted asking a girl out. It does take courage though, unless you're a complete ego-maniac.

Confidence aside, do you think she has "any" interest in you? If you think she does, you should definitely find the right time and place and ask her to hang out. If you want to buffer it at first, try going out in groups at first and work your way in.

Good luck.

--Andre