Birthday Turns into Hell Week

[STKMikeCampo]

All was going well for the two of us until my birthday hit, btw this wedsnday may or may not be our seventh month.
Anyway it all started when I was hoping for alot of attention on my b-day from my girlfriend. You know u build up as to what they ur doing or getting or whats gonna happen so i was full of excitement. So b-day comes, get nice little happy b-day and kiss. She said she forgot her gift at home, no big deal to me as I was happy with just a kiss. day goes by, i get home from work, no phone calls or anything, (then again both have been busy latley) but still it was my b-day, is it that much to ask?
day after, i come in to school expecting, "hey, hunney, i 've got somthing for you" but i get an "aperantly u don't know me "Hi, and get lost" I was already upset cuz i didn't get chat the night before but the ingorning really set me off. Maybe she was trying to surprise but it was too late, i was furious. Which I've never been before then. Lunch comes and I completley snub, thats how pissed i was, walked right by her without a word. Which is was she basically did to me earlier. I leave the premises and later come back 5mins later reallising what i've done and rdy to appologize. I first thing she says, "i think we should break up". We spent about 45mins discussing the problems we had (i.e. only saw each other outside of school on fridays, i work too much, i cant go to her house, her family doesn't like me, doesn't feel the same) My explaination was that its cuz we haven't seen much of each other lately so thats why we feel like that. But she still just wanted to be "best friends". Shortly after she was talking to one of those "not really ur friend people", I guess she already told them we broke up (i don't know why), my g\f leaves and her "not really her friend" yells\asks if we broke up and if we had sex. Unknowlingly i just blurted out "if u call it that" not think they would hear but they did.

So a whole weekend goes by (can't call her much because her dad visits weekend "family time&quot, at school i explained to why i snubbed her, she understood cuz all i wanted was some attn on one special day, all is well. for a 40mins or so. Then her that friend told her wat i blurted out. I was upset and u usually say stupid things when uspet right? We were our firsts, I know it is our business but, it just came out. She feels like a slut now and that everyone will think so because a few other people know. If i were in her shoes I would be upset but not as upset, f*** wat everybody thinks, that was between me and u. Wat are they gonna do about it? Only u and I know what the truth is. f***'em their just people, u'll never see again, unless at a 2050 class reunion. I don't really wat people think, I unless I care about them and they do to. I just don't know what the right and wrong feeling is on that issue (telling a few people u had sex with ur g\f) I mean alot of people I know openly share their sex life, so i didn't think much of it after I blurted it. bottom-line It was the button NOT to push and i slipped. I regret blurting it out so much u can't beleive even before she found out, because I knew that would break her trust after i blurted it out. I mean i did break her trust, but when u say shit when ur mad, they usually have some truth to it. Meaning, i give her more freedom then most when it comes to other guys, meaning she does alot of touching and unnescary attentiont to people she doesn't even really know, and I often end up just actually watching my g\f flirt with others. I've told her several times why and to stop doing so and she still did so, "says, I've known them for long". Often times she would tunr her back to me while i was talking to her, often tell me to leave her alone whilst she was often alone because I was always at work. So u'd think she'd want to be with me as much as possible.

Anyway, all i can say for now is that i've broken this girls trust, and I don't know how to gain it back or if its even possible. If i really didn't care about her would I be trying to get her back? Or if I would care I should just let go? We basicaly broke up cuz it was a bit hard to see each other, but for a bit it was easy and then hard and then easy again. Relationships aren't always perfect and easy right? How could i let her know that.


WOW written alot, I have nobody to talk to right know cuz she's thinking about us.

[WallyLlama]

Ummmm....

First, I should admit that some relationships seem to thrive on the sort of tension you've had in yours.

That said, you might reconsider your assumption that you broke up because you aren't seeing enough of each other. It sounds like you broke up because each of you expect the other to behave in very specific ways and it's not happening.

Read your post again and list the issues. She touches guys too much... you blurted too much... she didn't do what you wanted on your birthday... you can't go to her house and work too much...

Explaining all these things away doesn't make them go away. In order to have a relationship you are going to have to work on them together and figure out how you can make each other happy -- assuming, of course, that's what you BOTH want.