moving in

[seta]

i've been going out with my boyfriend for 16 months and everything just keeps getting better and better, i feel its time for us to move in together but i'm not getting the same feeling from him, we've not talked about it but he's mentioned it once that we would kill eachother if we live together (neither of us has ever lived with their partner) eventhough we spend 5 days 4 nights together almost every week!
i do understand that people need their own space every now and then.

[Trivium]

uhh, i think i heard couples who are not married and move in together thinking that they will test out what it will be like if they are married, usually end up not working out.(i could be wrong, sooo dont hurt me)

i dont think he wants live together yet, as he thinks you will kill each other.

[Sheriff Crawfish]

i agree. Sometimes it doesn't always work. Of course I know people who were living together for a while before they got married. it just depends on how you work with it. Both people really gotta work with it. If he isnt so keen on it, then don't pressure him. I am trying to get my girlfriend to move in with me because its alot easier than her living alot farther away.

but if you guys dont live far away from each other it isn't so bad. thats how i look at it.

[The1stTriSexual]

Been living in sin with my gf for the past 6 months (together 18 months). Our experience has been very good and we do plan on getting married. We're the same in a lot of ways and im guessing that that would have an impact on how successful its going to be.

[WallyLlama]

I think there's a huge difference between moving in together as an experiment and moving in together as a commitment. There have been threads on this forum where people end up "trapped" because they moved in with someone, discovered it wasn't going to work but couldn't afford to move out.

It's not the required process in relationship development, certainly... and some deliberation is in order because it is a bigger step (commitment) than most people realize.