Dumped, but why?

[thevert]

Today my girlfriend dumped me by txt after 6/7 months. The reason she said was because all the pressure in her life is getting her depressed. Her Nan has just gone hospital and could die and she says collage etc is stressing her out. She said she wants to split up because she needs some space but still loves me.
She doesn't want to speak to me or see me but she’s going out town tonight with her mates and she doesn’t have to give them attention.
In the last two weeks she has been acting strange to me, making up excuses to avoid me.
About a month ago she told me I was the one and her soul mate, but how can you just dump someone you think that much of?
I’m so confused right now. Has anyone got any advice? I haven’t done anything wrong, and i'm a good boyfriend so I don't know what to do or make of this situation. Could she still have feelings for her x who she went out with for a year and half? Or am I missing something.

Thanks

[WallyLlama]

Yup, you are missing something. Unfortunately, she's the only one who knows exactly what it is. One would THINK she'd want you around for support, etc. if things are that tough.

Advice?

You could try to get it out of her, but I'm not sure that will accomplish much - particularly since she doesn't want to see or speak to you.

You could move on, accept this as "one of those things" that probably has very little to do with you. If you think about it, the fact that she made the break up all about what's going on in her life suggests she's a bit self-centered and not ready for a serioius relationship.

A lot of people get "dumped" even though they did nothing wrong.

[thevert]

Well I found out what it is. She hasn't told me but she’s back with her X. I feel so useless now and depressed. She’s such a horrible, selfish person and I really want her to realise that but I can't. I’m so pissed off too. I don't deserve this.

When we were going out she would tell me that she loves me more than she ever did with her X. I've been thinking about this all day and everything she has told me I can't believe anymore. I completely trusted her and she does this.

What can I do??? She doesn’t even have the guts to see me face to face because she knows she don’t want to feel guilty. Now I have to change my whole life around again.

[oberon]

Hi Thevert,

I'm sorry you had a bad breakup. *That always sucks. But...

Life is like a kaleidoscope. *You just need to turn it around and look at the situation from a different perspective. *You say... "She’s such a horrible, selfish person"... and... "She doesn’t even have the guts to see me face to face because she knows she don’t want to feel guilty." *If that's the case, then isn't it much better that you find out now rather than a few years from now? *When maybe you've gotten married... and even had a child together? *

If there's one thing I've learned from the breakups I've had, it's that you should take the good from them, learn from the bad... and then, move on. *As the Buddhists would say, "This is a learning experience." * You've gained some experience, some knowledge and now, you're ready to go on to the next adventure. *Which stands an even chance of being even better.

Take care.

[Trivium]

that same thing happened to me, thevert. but it was over an e-mail, saying she wasent emotionally prepared for a relationship. and i find out the next day she gets into a new relationship.i to felt that she didnt have the guts to break up with me face to face, i guess that hurt the most.

i just put it behind me, it was tough at first. but, its all good now


off topic- why cant i make a new post in the "General Discussion"
forums?

edit- found out i need to be a senior member, how do i become a senior member?

[oberon]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Trivium @ Nov. 27 2005,20:13)]edit- found out i need to be a senior member, how do i become a senior member?

It's based on the number of posts you have...

Well... I was trying to find the number=rank chart, but I couldn't. I don't think it takes a lot of post to become a "Senior"... maybe 100? Not sure.

[Pinoy]

thevert, sorry for ya man i kno how much it hurts ... if u really love that sum1...
thats just really harsh what she did 2 ya
sorry for ya bud

[thevert]

Thanks for the support guys. I'm gradually getting though this. This is the first time I've been dumped but the way this has happened is bothering me the most. Everything she told me about me being her soul mate and moving in next year etc was just a load of cr*p and two weeks later she starts thinking about getting with her X.
She told me she hated him and she only loved his family and now shes back with him.
It’s having an effect on me, something is happening to me physicly from this and making me ill. Has anyone else experienced something like this?

[LittleFury]

Well, not completely like that. BUt I understand the physically part. THen I finally gave my abusive ex a boot, he actually got sick for over a week right after it. You just gotta get through it. Eat properly, try to get some sleep. And keep remmeber how lucky you are that you weren't stuck with that witch for longer than you have.

[Pinoy]

does the illnes feel like
your always down
hurt
feel like shit on the inside... ect..?
:S