How Many?

[Little_minx]

hi all, my new bf is 23 (24 in march) and we were chattin about how many people he has slept with. Does this sound alot...
He has slept with 38.

Lost his virginity at 17, had a gf for a yr then 3yrs single(which included 5 lads hols)then had a relationship for 3yrs.
So basically for that 3yrs he was single he slept with 36 people.

Does this sound advage or a hell of alot to everybody?

Also how old r u guys and whats your magic number?

Thanx

[dodgerfan]

Hi!! You asked the wrong question.lol Never ask questions you don't want the answer to. I am 28 and a pretty good looking guy who has been in college for 10 years.(no I am not a doctor but am working on a ph.d). Anyways, I have been all around the world with the military and have done a lot of things including a lot of beautiful women. Anyways, anytime a girl asks me that question I dodge it like a bullet because it is really not a fair question. For example, I have always been scared of committment so I don't stay with the same girl very long if it looks like it won't work out. I don't consider myself a whore because I don't have random flings but I don't know if I could accurately count my times. What matters is how he feels with you and treats you. Also make sure he gets tested before having any unprotected sex. But other than that don't judge him based on failed flings of the past. What matters is the present! If he is responsible he get's tested between all his girls so it shouldnt matter. Wouldn't you rather have a guy who has sampled the field and knows what he wants or a naive guy who is curious what else is out their?? Good Luck and dont sweat the small things!!

[aussie_gal]

i guess it doesnt really matter . The main thing is that he is committed [B]. Personally though, I'd find it hard to be with someone who had slept with so many girls. I am 22 and have a lot of guy friends and even the ones that have occassionally slept around, don't even come CLOSE to that number.

[Rosie]

WOW yehh thats alot from my experience.......yeh he might treat you nice etc: but he is probably a master and getting women into bed n then leaving them.....so hmmmm. on the other hand he could b genuine.... i just wouldnt be jumping into bed with him, make him sweat for a little and if he sticks around then yehh go for it, if he leaves you because hes not getting any then u kno he was just wating the sex.

[thetease13]

Well, that's a lot to me, but that's just because that's more people than I will ever sleep with in my life.
I have a friend my age that has slept with somewhere between 10 and 20 guys. That's more people than I will sleep with in my life.

I'm 24, and personally, I've slept with 1 person my whole life. And if I could, I would take him home with me and he'd be the only person I slept with for the rest of my life.

I'm just not a person that meets somebody and then goes off to have sex with them. I have to know them. I have to be with them awhile.
But for others, it works differently. Some people can meet someone and then want to go off and have sex with them. It's all to each their own.

[lilly2279]

Well that's literally 1 a month for 3 years, which i think sounds funny. Maybe he's fibbing a bit. Or maybe he has.

Who knows?

But it's in the past. Yes, never ask a question you don't want to know. I don't ask my boyfriend and I don't tell him. It's the past. Unless he was murdering small animals in his spare time, I don't see how it can hinder our relationship to not know something so trivial.

Get over it, basically. He's with you now. Focus on the here and now.

[kitty_robyn]

those numbers can be hard to swallow, especially with the risk of diseases, illegitimate children, and all the other things that come with sex. you asked, so now you know and only you can decide what to do with that.

i'm going to give my very frank personal opinion, but like i said, this is something you have to work out for yourself.

that number scares the hell out of me. i've been with three now at age twenty. all three shared something special with me, a kind of bond and memory. i don't think you can have that with 38 girls... it's not special anymore, it's just sex

and when you're in a relationship, sex is one of those things that is supposed to be special. maybe you can rekindle the "specialness". i don't know about that, but it's worth trying.

all that said, i'm not sure if i helped, but i had to throw my opinion out there.

[lonely_me]

cool it...i does n t matter how many he slept wiht....
wat is important is how true he is to you....
if he is gud do....then i think u have to take a chill pill