Sex on First date

[dodgerfan]

I was wondering if anyone has advice on if it is possible to have a good relationship with someone you slept with on the first date? I had a study date with this girl and we ended up having a couple beers after we studied. Well she acted a little drunk so i invited her to crash on my couch. Well since i felt a strong connection i decided to give her a little kiss goodnight. and the very next thing i know, we are in my bed and the resti is history. We had class the next day and were still a little google eyed and she told me to call her. Well a few days later i call and she doesn't answer, nor has she returned my calls. Does this sound like a girl playing hard to get or not interested. Should I call a second time??

[Rosie]

Hi,
wellll..........u felt a connection and thats a good thing, it great to have a guy that is interested than more that just a one night stand! She could have regretted doing it if she was drunk, but u say she "acted" drunk? ummm she could just be unsure of what to do and what it meant to u. Mayb send her a txt (and i know it is better to talk about these things face to face, but what can u do if u dont see the person??) jus explaining u do like her, i don't think u should pour your heart out like romeo in shakespeare's R & J, or perhaps u wanna catch up for a coffee n a chat (no drinkies this time * ) and perhaps just try to give her a call once more n if she doesn't respond then she may not have been interested in anything more. but being a girl i hate telling someone how i feel if i don't kno for sure how they feel, yes it is the fear of rejection. so give it another shot, n then she knows the ball is in her court (so to speak).

let us kno what happens.

[dodgerfan]

Hi! Thanks for the reply!! I took your advice and emailed her today complementing her smile and presence and told her to have a great week and hope to see her in class on thursday. Well she responded within an hour with, "Sorrry I haven't called you back. I have been swamped at work! I hope to see you in class on thurs. have a great week." I was excited to see her quick response. Anyways, Should I go ahead and call her back tomorrow and set up a date for this weekend, or wait until class on thursday to talk to her? I don't want to sound desperate and stuff but I don't want to wait too long either. Thanks again!

[Rosie]

Oh thats great
well i would wait till thursday n see how it feels around her, n have a chat n go from there . a fast reply is good because she obviously knows u have put the effort in. but again i would wait until thursday and ask her from there!
plus it is always better asking someone out to their face (she will respect you more for it!) than over the phone or email.
let me know what happens this thursday!!!

[dodgerfan]

Ok. I saw her in class tonight. Of course I got the knots in the stomach and such and we made small talk and stuff. But then afterwards it gets weird. I asked her if she would come grab a quick cup of coffee with me and chat. Well she said she has to get back to work and so i said cool and left. But i turned around and went back to her and cornered and told her if she wanted to blow me off go ahead and do it now before it gets complicated. She got defensive and said no way i am just busy working 12 hours a day right now and don't have a spare minute. Well i said ok talk to ya later and left. I think it's hi time I throw my hands up and say i tried. The problem is I never get crushes, I can score with women and not feel emotion which sux but finally one comes my way and shatters me. Should I just quit or what. I hate feelings especially when they are in vain.

[Rosie]

hi,
mmmmm thats interesting. How old r u both? she could genuinly be busy, and she could have cold feet, cause when i like someone i tend to do the opposite n say i am busy just because i am scared about what could happen (and i know that sounds silly). is she a shy girl?? because it could also be an easy way of letting you down gently, however, you confronted her and asked her to be straight with you and usually people will tell you "ok i like u" or "ok get stuffed" but she didn;t really say either so i am guessing she is just nervous and confused.

So i am not entirely sure what is going on in her mind, she could either b scared, and by scared i mean confused about what happened or could happen with you. or she is blowing you off. I think you should give her some sapce, and send her a msg everynow and then saying we having drinks here if you would like to come etc: just to let her know you are there.

I hate it when guys say they could just have a *uck and can hav a *uck buddy because thats what my ex used/is to be like. he told me that he wanted more with me n i could never tell if he was telling the truth he either was trying to get laid or he did actually cared. so perhaps the same thoughts are running through her head. she may not just want to be another "chick" to you n is just saving her self the trouble of getting invloved with someone that may not appreciate her. (not saying that you wouldn't appreciate her however, she just might not know).

dont give up all together, things don't happen instantly, just let her know u care and msg her everynow and then. see how that goes and if she doesn't reply or doesn't talk to you when u see eachother around then she may just not be interested.
it may suck, and it does hurt but if you care about her you would just give her some time and see from there.

goodluck keep me posted.