Why do girls suck?

[pokerfan3]

Ok, so that girl gen i talked about a while ago how i told her my feelings for her and she said that she was not in a position to date right now. Fine i get that. But apprently the position is not soooo bad that she can't date some other guy. She just told me about some guy she started dating recently and i am just so pissed. You don't wanna date me? Fine, but tell me the f***ing truth and stop playing f***ing games and then telling me you're not. Who's with me on this? Do girls just suck or what?

[MasterBater101]

Well I sure as hell know they do suck in one way

And no they don't suck like you ment, that one is just a bitch and I am guessing you are angry at her and she obviously wanted to let you down easily so take it as a complement as in "You are the right guy for someone else but not for me, I don't want to crush your self esteem like an old potato chip so I am trying to say no without saying no." It is unfair to say that they all are horrid because of one bitch, it is fair to be angry but flaming all women in your 8th*post is not fair.

[pokerfan3]

yea you're right, i'm just bitter that's all. It's just that i'm the kind of guy that just wants an answer that's it. I can handle the truth it's ok. But if her itentions were to let me down easy then i give her some props for that.

[MasterBater101]

That is good because now that you admit that you seriously cut the risk of flames and lynching for that matter *fiddles with his platinum earring for no reason* The funny thing is that I was doing that as I typed it and I really have to stop...Anyways at least you don't start screaming obscene things in French like I do (but the best part is when you call a teacher stuff like that and they don't speak French) ok now I am rambling again... I will shut up now

[mjv154]

Poker boy I'm going to give you a little piece of advice that has done me rather well over the last few years.

I've seen it a 1000 times. Guy meets girl, guy likes girl, guy ends up telling girl how much he likes her, girl drops guy. It's endless. I mean there are tons of posts on here just like that.

So...what to do, what to do? Try this next time. Don't go off and babble about how much you like this girl. Keep your big yap SHUT. I make it a point to NEVER tell a girl I am dating that I like her. Oh, I SHOW her that I like her, in the things I do and the way I act, but you don't need to tell her.

Why? you may ask. Well, look at it this way, you tell her you like her, and she's not into that right now, so she if forced to deal with it by saying, "NO". When, if you simply show her you like her, she enjoys your company and is never forced to tell you to bug off. Your totally in the green.

By now, here is where your asking, "But if I don't tell her I like her then she will never know and date some other guy". Well, truth is....she will know, and chances are, if she wants to date another guy, and you still want something to work out between the two of you later, this is your only hope.

[thetease13]

You know what? Things change.
At the time you asked her out, she may have not been in the mood to date anyone at that moment. But then hey, look, someone else came along that perhaps sparked her interest and changed her mind.

I've had a couple people ask me out recently. My answer? Not right now. Why? Because plain and simple, I'm not looking for someone right now. It's not the fact that I wouldn't touch them with a 10 foot pole anyways, it's the fact that I'm just not interested in dating someone right now.
But who knows, a week from now, that could totally change. It doesn't mean I suck. It means that things change.

[Morgandy]

Yeah, and guess what? I've seen guys do it too So go easy on the generalization there.

[MasterBater101]

Morgandy you are absolutley right, also, I am tired of woman-bashing due to a handful of bad experiences with a woman/women, it is unfair to them and makes us look like stereotype-judging jackasses. I told my ex I liked her and she LOVED me for it...until the relationship went sour when she cheated on me with Josh because he was quote "Much hotter than you" but I got over it, I turned down my share of women (and that guy who molested me) because I just broke up with her and wasn't ready for another relationship, that was an unfair generalization on your part, Mjv, and Thetease as you stated she probably wasn't in the mood to date at that point in time because I sure as hell wasn't. Si vous pensez que vous pouvez marcher par-dessus toutes femmes comme un paillasson juste à cause d'une main pleine de gars obtenant a refusé parce qu'ils thier de l'état les vraies sensations pour chaque autre vous êtes gravement mépris! Si cela a raison dans vos yeux je suis stupéfié si vous avez une amie de votre propre, à moins qu'elle aime les hommes qui sont completesment insensible. Au revoir monsieur! *

[Translation: If you think that you can walk by over all women like a doormat just because of a handfull of guys that were turned down because they revealed thier true feelings, you are gravely mistaken! If that is how you treat women I am amazed if you have a girlfriend of your own, unless she likes the men that are competley insensitive. Good-bye sir! ]

[Morgandy]

For sure. I just recently got out of a break-up myself, and I was both guilty of gender-bashing and turning down other guys too. Masterbater and Pokerfan - that really stinks the way the girls in your life decided handle things.

Later on in life, I assure you they'll probably have to deal with a similar thing happening to them. Then hopefully they'll have the foresight to treat the guys that come in their life differently. I've seen it happen to friends of mine, and that's how i've learned too.

Both sides are guilty of it. Don't give up, because there are tons of great guys and gals still out there.

[aussie_gal]

im sorry to hear about that but talking from experience, it makes no difference what she told you. Not in a position to date really means they dont want to datr you anyway because, well how i see it ( and this applies for guys as well) if someone likes you enough, they'll want to be with you regardless of anything else. About a year ago I had a guy who became completely obssessed with me after a very very drunken kiss one night which meant nothing and i regreted. anyway, he asked me out sooo many times and just kept getting rejected. it is very very difficult to say to someone, im sorry i dont like YOU i dont want to go out with YOU, so we say, im sorry i dont really wanna b/f atm etc because 1. it doesnt hurt their feelings as much, and 2 it still gets the message across!