Getting it to NOT hurt nemore...

[JustTrying2BeAGOODBoyfriend]

OK everyone, first of all, HI!!!! i havn't been here for at least 2 months... NEWAYS...

My g/f and I, have been messing around (fingering <<one finger>>, handjobs,eating-her-out, blowjobs) and i can do pretty much ANYTHING down there for her w.o it hurting. OK but now she has this chronic "pain" to where if i even press my Penis to her Vagina with the hopes of having sex, ((we havn't yet cause of this issue)) she complains that it hurts, and she just blows me off.
Ok, i KNOW that it is supposed to hurt in the begginning for her, i KNOW that, but what i cannot explain to her is, "it's going to keep hurting unless i get it IN THERE and loosen it up", i may be completely wrong and it may hurt her even after having sex a bajillion times... but i cant just get her to... "accept" it... i mean ive tried lube, i mean, TRIED fingering her with two fingers ((she has pain with THAT too)) so i can NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER, Do it and NO "progress" is made.... I'm sorry but i am beginnig to get frusterated... SOMEONE PLEASE help a guy out....

[EndlessProblems]

Why not try Anal

Joking obviously, but being a virgin I don't think I can help you too much. Though, the way you make it sound, the pain seems like she should go to a Gynecologist (spelling?) and have him check it out. It sounds more like a hernia to me then anything (if my girlfriend sits on my lap the wrong way it hurts like a bitch), so you might want to tell her she should get checked out.

Then again, I'm no sex expert, being a virgin, so maybe my advice wouldn't be the best to take

[JustTrying2BeAGOODBoyfriend]

One fricken problem with the whole going to her gyno to figure out if there is something "wrong"... SHE COMPLETELY FEARS HER GYNO.... last time she went she was SCARED shitless, so SCARED in fact that her doctor didn't do a pelvic exam cause she thought she would be traumatized... but i think that is not-so-good cause she "pretended" she wasn't sexually active AT ALL, so her doc didn't "check" her... which could mean she could ahve something "wrong" with her now that could've been caught early if she had admitted she was sexually active... but IUNNO... Growls***

[Brandye]

Sounds like she is simply not ready. Nothing you do is going to chenge that.

[Kawaii Koinu]

I agree with Brandye (btw I've read a lot of your stuf Brandye and think you'e pretty cool).

Yes, the first few times will hurt her but if she doesn't do it then the pain will never ease. But if she's not emotionally ready hen you need to give her timeand treat her with love and respect. I know it's tough but it'll pass. Just be pacient with her and remembr you love her with all your heart (if you don't then you don't need to be having sex with her in the first place).

[missyh]

sex for the first time for a girl needs to be relaxed and comfortable in order for her to relax the muscles to the vagina, so be there for her dont push her talk more about it and see is she ready and dont forcr what ever you do.