Question of time???

[hopelessromantiX]

i'm 18 and have never had a gf...i've fallen for this girl and we have kissed a few times...she unfortunately moved to another state and i feel so madly inlove with her(it's mutual according to her), we talk every single day and share such a strong bond....thing is shes had her share of bfs and has initiated in foreplay...it bugs me and at times becomes so bad that i become distant...to add insult she's really good friends with her ex and well i need to get another opinion on this...I REALLY LOVE HER AND I FEEL SO DROWNED BECAUSE I CAN'T GET OVER HER INTIMATE PAST...can someone please provide their much needed take on this issue it would honestly mean alot to me thank you...

[WallyLlama]

If you poke around this board some you'll find lots of discussions about this.

Some of the more commonly made points are:

Recognize that you are building something special and more intimate than anything either of you expereinced before. It is not simply that she's had boyfriends but you haven't had girlfriends. Neither of you have had each other before. Focus on that.

It might be helpful to figure out why this is so important to you. Recognize that this is about you - not about her.

I suspect the fact that she is far away is complicating this... LDR (long distance relationships) can bring up all sorts of trust issues if you allow them.